Mom vs. Prom?

Question

Two good friends of mine have invited me to two separate proms this year. After the first Prom (for the school I attend), my date and his group are driving to Lake Travis for the weekend (about three or four hours away from where we live). After the second Prom (with a friend from a different school), my date's group is going to New Braunsfels for the weekend (a couple hours away, again).
My mom doesn't want me to attend the "after events" in either city because she doesn't feel comfortable about the distance, lack of supervision, and the fact that I won't know any of the people in either group except my dates. I would really like to go to both, and I'm curious about what to do. Date #1 is renting the house in Lake Travis with his own money, so it would only make sense that his date (me) should go with him.
Do I just accept my mom's answer or try to change her mind? Or should I just tell Date #1 I can't go?
p.s. I don't drink, so it's not like I'm being irresponsible the whole time

Wow, everyone's advice on this is really great--I appreciate it!
Just as an added note, both of my dates are good friends, not love interests, and I've made it clear to this point that I don't want anything more that that. I'd like to hope they would respect that and not pressure me into either drinking or sex, but you can never know. I think it's a valid point though, about everyone else in the groups and not knowing what they might pressure me into...It's definitely something to think about!

(Just in case it wasn't known before, I'm also adding the fact that this isn't even my prom...my Senior prom is next year.)

Answer 1

You should respect your mom's decisions, because she's only concern for your safety. Sometimes drinking is not a main factor to be irresponsible - going out of town with a group of strangers is a bit irresponsible at your young age.
And like you said you don't know any of these people but your dates?

But if you want to go convince your mom that you will let her see you off and give her a few numbers of different people from the group just in case she can't reach your phone. Promise her you'll CALL her every so often to reassure her you are safe ( also helps you get a 2nd trip & gain her trust )
Let her know exactly the location of your stay.

Think about the trip : alcohol - sex - what's gonna go on in those days?? Be prepare to fall under peer pressure & Keep strong!!!
Maybe bring a good trusted friend along (besides your date) so you have someone to confide in and that' might make your mom think again
Tell your mom that you understand that she is worried and she really cares about you. Tell her you appreciate her concern and that you'll be okay.

Answer 2

I love Lake Travis, I'm from SA. But before you decide on either, see if there will be drinking if you don't drink because it can be hell to be the only nondrinker at an after party, you'll be taking care of sick people, getting pressured etc, especially if your date has rented the house with his own money, check his expectations of you for that night (in reference to sexual/drinking/money). Also since you won't know anybody ask about the kids, because you don't want to end up with a bunch of crazies who are going to get everyone at the party arrested.

After you've discussed all of this with your date, you can see if your mom wants to talk to your date about the after events, to get reassured. Though ultimately respect your mom's decision, because even though prom is a big deal you may have to deal with the bad feelings in your relationship for a verrrry long time after. Just keep in mind that after highschool prom, even 2 weeks after, isn't anything major it's a nice memory that doesn't matter.

Answer 3

Listen to your mom! In this year 2007, it is extremely important to know whom you are hanging out with so that you will make it home alive. Traveling great distances with only one person, your date, whom you are of acquaintance sends up smoke signals to me. And exactly what do you think you will be doing at a house on a lake with your date? You don't have to go far away to have a nice time on Prom night. Your mom wants to see you longer than just to see your Prom but to walk across the stage with your diploma. If you get in trouble, you will be so far away that someone might not find you in time. I'm not trying to scare you, just hopefully you will open your eyes.

Answer 4

This is a tough one. My first instinct is to rebel and find a way to go no matter what "mommy" says. but then my own mother instincts kick in and I can just imagine how I would feel if my own little girl, when all grown up, wants to do the same thing. I would tell her no because there's no telling what would happen. And i love her very much and want the best for her. so no matter what happens, just remember that you mom loves you and is just trying to look out for you.

Answer 5

You know, this is probaby the same line of thought those, sexually-abused/raped girls that come out on the news had before they knew what hit em.

A girl spending the weekend with a bunch of guys. Not a good idea. Go with mom on this one.

Answer 6

I see your mom's worry about this. lots of girls get in trouble on prom night.
has she met your date? how long have you been going out with him? does she like him?
you might not be irresponsible, but some of the people there might be.

Answer 7

just ask your mum again tell her you will be really responsible and promise her that if any thing should go wrong you will call her straight away. this might put her mind at ease

Answer 8

prom is a once in a lifetime event, tell mom shes being uneasonable and she needs to relax because you only get one prom and you want it to be memorable, give her a contact number for the lakehouse or something to ease her mind

Answer 9

convince your mom and tellher youll cary ur phone wit u