How do you break up with your first love?

Question

Serious answers and comments only please. I have been in love with this guy for 4 years, we have been together for 5. He is like an addicition to me I can't get away from. The problem is he has been cheating on me for the entire relationship with random girls and a few he have had proir or current relationships with. I'm the family and some friends face and the others he takes out and do things with. I love him so much I feel as if I would die for him. It hurts to be with him but it hurt just as much not to be. He is amazing when he wants to be but an asshole every other time. I so lost my brain says get out now. but my heart wants to stay what do I do?

Answer 1

Your paying the price for not loving yourself. I mean honestly if this guy was great at all, I mean even in the least, you wouldn't be here. Also you'd be married, happy, and enjoying life. So you've got some misconceptions on what happiness is. Which only makes sense because this guys got you by the ego (pride) and not so much by the heart. You don't love yourself more then you love him which isn't a healthy relationship, its just a way for you to avoid your ownself and the issues you have we you. People don't make you happy, your happy so you bring that to other people. Sad too because you've got a lot of history with this guy, so your going to suffer for you choose, but thats free will for you. Theres no easy fix here, except growing up, which is cliche'. The real process invovles you getting to know you, to love you, and to appricate what you deserve. Bottom line you need to realize that you've been spending your time hating yourself with him, if you don't believe see how you feel by yourself knowing he isn't around for you anymore. Besides you said it your self he's like an addiction, which is exactly why we become addicts in the frist place. We don't like how we feel so we search for something to make us feel better. Since you've been with this person for so long you might have forgot theres plenty of other men (drugs) out there that might work better for you. But the real point is not to treat yourself or your relationships that way. I'm just happy I didn't read anything about a kiddo yet... o yea another peice of advice your brains there to help you control your heart, realize that its why we think in the frist place. The human heart is capiable of letting a person love a tree and think of a tree even as its god, lover, friend, companion, we have that type of soul. The brain on the other hand is there to help keep that from getting out of control, so for the love of it all, listen to your brain.... so you don't loss control of your heart.