What is a Purity Ball?
The Father Daughter Purity Ball is a memorable ceremony for fathers to sign commitments to be responsible men of integrity in all areas of purity. The commitment also includes their vow to protect their daughters in their choices for purity. The daughters silently commit to live pure lives before God through the symbol of laying down a white rose at the cross. Because we cherish our daughters as regal princesses—for 1 Peter 3:4 says they are “precious in the sight of God”—we want to treat them as royalty.
"As all the dads stood to read the covenent over their daughters, I felt the power of those words sink right into my heart. My father pledged to protect me and promised to lead a life of integrity and purity for me. He signed his name and I signed as a witness to his words. And as he escorted me to the dance floor I felt empowered by his promise to spend the rest of his life warring for my heart through his life of purity. And I knew my life would never be the same..."
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2007-03-28 17:40:56 · 19 answers · asked by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Purity rings, or chastity rings originated in the United States in the 1990s among Christian affiliated sexual abstinence groups. The rings are sold to adolescents, or to parents so that they may be given to their adolescent children as gifts.
It is intended that wearing a purity ring is accompanied by a religious vow to practice celibacy until marriage. The ring is usually worn on the left ring finger with the implication that the wearer will remain abstinent until it is replaced with a wedding ring. There is no particular style for purity rings; however, many worn by Christians have a cross in their design in reference to Jesus Christ. Some rings contain a diamond chip or other gemstone and/or "Love waits" embossed somewhere on the ring. Others also wear the ring on their right fingers, claiming that the rights of a having rings on the left ring fingers belong solely to their future spouses.
2007-03-28 17:41:34 · update #1
How creepy is this?
2007-03-28 17:42:02 · update #2
definitely very creepy.
its ont the celibacy, or vow or purity or anything like that, thats creepy.
its the fact that something so profoundly personal, is being sworn in reference to. ... .by the father instead of the girl? that just doesn't make any **** sense.
>>" for fathers to sign commitments to be responsible men of integrity in all areas of purity."<<
whats this have to do with the daughter? the only things that come to mind where the daughter is relevant to such a thing, other than as a family member supporting a religious devotion, is... well sure as hell shouldn't need a promise!
>>"The commitment also includes their vow to protect their daughters in their choices for purity."<<
again, shouldn't this be a given?
>>"The daughters silently commit to live pure lives before God through the symbol of laying down a white rose at the cross."<<
so they aren't actually swearing anything? why not? doesn't seem very egaltarian.
>>"I felt the power of those words sink right into my heart. "<<
just... bad karma. this phrasing and description of things reeks of unkosher magic....
>>"My father pledged to protect me and promised to lead a life of integrity and purity for me. "<<
that just doesn't make any sense.
>>"I felt empowered by his promise to spend the rest of his life warring for my heart through his life of purity. "<<
this is nonsensical as well. whats with christianity's fixation on other people taking responsibility for YOUR actions?
2007-03-28 19:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't find the idea of taking vows of "purity" to be creepy, but the manner in which they are taken is somewhat strange. Now my question is, do the adolescent boys also go through this ritual with their mothers? I can understand it as a father protecting his daughter from other men (my own father used to growl at men who talked to me at the beach when I was a teenager); the creepiness factor comes in when one looks at the reality that so many fathers fail their daughters (and sons sometimes) by becoming the very threat this vow enjoins them to guard against.
I see nothing wrong with using the power of an explicit vow to reinforce behavior that might lower the rate of "babies having babies." If it works, then why not employ such a thing to make adolescent girls think twice about engaging in premarital sex? The intent sounds good, although, in reality, the vows could be perverted, as could any vows or moral imperatives.
2007-03-29 00:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure I'd call it creepy, maybe cheesy and juvenile. But we have a lot of juveniles making "adult" decisions.
Abstinence when young is certainly a good thing. Teen pregnancy, disease, the way sex changes a young relationship, and the trauma/drama from an adult type breakup when the person is truly a child are not worth the thrill of sex in the back seat.
If a ring can help some kids wait a bit longer, or abstain until they marry. That seems a good thing. I'd prefer it amongst peers, not with my dad if I was a kid. Perhaps as a part of a sex ed type program.
2007-03-29 01:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The idea of being chaste until marriage is a good one. The Ball thing is a little weird if you ask me. I would think that most girls would find taking about sex with their father a little bit odd. It takes on a tinge of incest. And why pledge to only the father? This idea comes from the middle ages when fathers owned their daughter and gave her to the man she was going to marry then he owned her. So no, I don't like the whole idea of the the dance, etc. Purity before marriage, is a good idea, however.
2007-03-29 00:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's very creepy for a lot of reasons:
1. Purity Balls set up girls for sexual failure
2. Fairy-tale weddings are a lie
3. It promotes guilt and shame upon the girls who "break their purity-based commitment"
4. It promotes the idea that women and girls should only be property for men to use (and abuse) them all they want
5. It opposes actual sex education classes...and thinks that abstinence is the only way to avoid getting raped
6. Instead of teaching men not to rape anyone, it only promotes rape culture as well as constantly telling girls "not to get raped" (their words, not mine (and actually drumming it into their heads))
7. It also insists that girls and women should never be trusted to make even the right decisions for themselves
8. One word: SEXIST!!!
9. It also probably promotes grooming girls to become submissive wives who are obedient to their husbands and loving to their children (not that I hate kids; I just don't want to have any kids)
10. It teaches parents to believe that people should "only have sex to make babies". HELLO!!! Sex is a natural thing and it exists for all of us to enjoy all we want, not just to have kids (I'm sure that you can enjoy sex and still choose to remain child-free)
Need I say more?
2014-01-29 01:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Erin the Raccoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's creepy. I know many girls that have purity rings and have taken a vow to stay pure until marriage. I wish I had the opportunity to do that.
2007-03-29 01:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
VERY creepy.
After all, the best place to get laid, according to 2500 teenagers polled last year, is at these "abstinence" or "save yourself for marriage" events.
They say that their parents leave them alone and that there are many opportunities for sex.
Teenagers, in some cases, are actually smarter than their parents....
2007-03-29 07:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda Green 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is meant to be enjoyed, not abstained from.
And yes, that is a little weird. Sounds like the parent is marrying the child. I never wearing liked rings...even when I was married.
2007-03-29 00:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Very creepy, making a formal ceremony out of girls lying to Daddy.
2007-03-29 00:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by novangelis 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Extremely creepy. Sounds like the fathers are trying to make a desperate attempt to deny pedophilic tendencies.
2007-03-29 00:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋