I have been with him since i was 16 and never been with any one if you know what I mean. We were married for 23 years. We had 6 children together.Their ages range from 21 to 5 years old. I'm 40 now it has been really hard on all of us this paast year.Our kids have started to go on with their lives, am I being selfish just thinking about myself????!!
2007-03-28 17:17:04 · 6 answers · asked by cyndi p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are NOT being selfish. I just attended a teleconference on grief...it covered this. Of course you are scared...your "compass" in life has changed.
It's probably not something you should be thinking about now...not because it would be selfish or wrong-it isn't. But you need to slowly change what your life is about without him in the picture. Your identity has changed, this is imprinted in your soul and heart. Attend a local grief group with other widows. Talking to other people about these uncomfortable subjects (and hearing that they go through the same thing) can be very therapeutic.
I am so sorry for your loss and wish you the best.
2007-03-28 17:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Melinda was killed in a car wreck five years ago this comming June. She was 50. I was 67, almost 68. Our youngest was nine when she died. His sister was 15. We had some tough times. However that does not answer your question. A year is a short span of time. It ( life ) gets better. You will never forget the love and years you had with your late husband. Nevertheless you must get on with your life and the lives of the children still at home. YES, you will date, although it will be strange at first. I don't believe selfish is the correct word, but yes stop thinking of self and give you engery and time to others. Your 40, don't stop living. I will be 72 this July, I certainly don't give in to that. Just in case you wan't to vent sometime and get stuff off you mind. crc19352002@yahoo.com
2007-03-29 00:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grieving process takes time. Have you tried Parents with out Partners? There are many low cost/ no cost grief counseling services to help you through this process. Give yourself the gift of time. When you are ready to date again, you will know. Don't let any one push you into something that you are not ready for.
No you are not being selfish, you are just being human.
2007-03-29 00:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your loss, but you are not being selfish at all. as time go on then all of you will learn to live your life again. just
take thinngs slow when you are ready then you will know what
to do. talk to the kids as well and get there input as well.
2007-03-29 00:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a life outside of your children. If you feel like your ready to date again, then do it.
2007-03-29 00:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe and maybe not. you do have needs as a woman and human being. but i think you should discuss this with your kids instead of us on YA
2007-03-29 00:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by trendsetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋