I dont even know how to start forget him.He has desrtoyed our wedding plan at 10th feb 07 a go coz of something that we have discussed before.But now, he ask me to back with him.Im still in love with him, but i have no trust left for him.What should i decide?
2007-03-28 17:14:43 · 18 answers · asked by Mell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If there is no trust, there is no love....
Life alone can be scary, but if you stay with this guy, you could be missing out on meeting the person who will never violate your trust. This chucklehead this spells out trouble with a capital T.
2007-03-28 17:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by lizardking_livesforever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is just 1 day but a marriage is for a lifetime. Fair enough he canceleld the big day, as people do get cldfeet. However, if there no trust then there is nothing to make your mariage work. So spend some time apart from him and think about if you can realy imagine yourself growing old with this man....xx
2007-03-28 22:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mell
I have been Married too a Man I thought I could trust will all my Heart.
He was my Lover,Friend,husband,Father off my Children,Business partner and a load off other stuff,but he had an Affair and fell in love with someone else, only then did I really see that actually he was none of the above,that was all ME.
So tread carefully and don't see things that are not there Maybe he already has.
2007-03-28 21:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is perfect. Healing a broken heart is not. Not enough detail as to what came between you and your bo, but take a good hard look at what was so difficult to overcome the decision to marry you. You say you don't trust him. An important aspect of love is trust. Caution is called for and check level of remorse, if in fact he did something untrustworthy.
2007-03-28 17:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your situation. The true answer is time, only time can heal a broken heart. I've been there and it does get better. Try to detatch your mind as well as your feelings from that person. Keep yourself busy and if you start to think about him instantly do something else that needs thought. Don't listen to the radio because you'll be reminded of him and relate love songs to your situation. Listen to music that you enjoy and is upbeat and have positive lyrics. Time is the best and only healer! Good luck. x
2007-03-28 17:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by shootin_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't just destroy a wedding because of something already discussed before!!! if there was something wrong, you should not make someone believe that you are committed and ready to marriage and just cancel it at the last minute.. plus, you can't marry someone that you don't trust, specially if he doesn't give you the secure feeling that he is really committed to u as you are to him.. my advice to you is: you can save your love for him in just one way.. talk to him about how you are feeling now (broken heart, lack of trust, lack of security...) he should really really love you and want you and prove it; don't prepare for your wedding immediately!!! marriage is a very serious decision, one of the most important and difficult ones.. you should have open trust and communication between the 2 of you in addition to love... and be sure that you want to be with each other no matter what!!!what he did was very wrong but everyone deserves a second chance in life.. so wait for him to prove himself to u and THEN make your decision.. oh and never ever let anyone interfere with you decision!!!
I wish you a very very good luck with this.. i don't know how you feel but i can imagine how awful and hard that must be fo u..
2007-03-28 17:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by mograbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem of not trusting him, the best thing you can do is to go on and give yourself time to mend your heart. Not having trust in your mate is a terrible way to start a marriage. Don't go back.
Time will heal your heart.
2007-03-28 17:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow. This is a toughy. My suggestion is to look deep into yourself and ask,"Do I really love him?" I f you decide you do, you should give him another chance. While you're thinking about the question, scoop down 20 oz of Rocky Road ice-cream. It always helps me!
2007-03-28 17:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Catty411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry, shout if you have to...just dont give him another chance to break your heart. Im with the rest..only time will heal..Ive learned that once you atart to accept things, everything else falls in place. Dont be hard on yourself because he was an idiot. Chin up girl...!
2007-03-28 21:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and enjoy yourself, dont take him back, not yet anyway, let him grovel for a while. give yourself space to think, and then buy some super glue.....for the broken heart.party like you have never partied before.
2007-03-28 19:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by dizzykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋