I have a 3 1/2 girl, how do i potty trainer her.My wife tries she crys and yells.?

Question

We have a 5yr boy with autism and by 3+ he went by himself. To this day we have no problems.

Answer 1

She should have been trained two years ago. Maybe you should take her to a doctor.

Answer 2

Potty training is all about when the child is ready, consistancy and praise/comfortbility.

Most girls learn by other girls as boys learn by other boys.

What could help is not forcing, but introducting her to the potty by other children. usually in a setting of a pre school. This is where going to the bathroom by learning from other children is a good thing.

Make sure the potty is kid friendly. Placing her on a "adult" toilet can be big, scary and too overwhelming. Kids are funny because sometimes, their favorite cartoon character on a toilet seat (design) can help them than a character they dislike.

I would also be careful watch of those who are around her. Some children who refuse the restroom or cry/yell and "push" away could also be suffering from abuse or too much pressure. Be very cautious about it. I already came across a few during the last 2.5 years working in pre school and daycare setting where I had to report after legit signs of abuse (that came to be true after investigation).

Boys and girls are different. Don't say things like "He is 5 and autistic and trained before you". That puts label on the boy and a pressure by comparing herself to a boy, which both bodies and minds are completly different.

Sit down and read books like another lady recommended. That does help a lot. Especially, everyone poops I think it is called. I heard about a book like that, where children know it is a "natural" thing to do.

Ask her what is wrong with the potty? How she feels? give her some vocabulary and questions so she can express herself. something is causing fear and rejection and the next step might be a child behaviorist.

Answer 3

It's definately time she started potty training.

First of all I'd get some advice from your local child health nurse or doctor . They are experts at how to deal with this stuff.

Second of all, don't ever yell at her. If you make it into an emotional situation, she'll back away from it, you need to make it fun. Same thing happened with us, my first child was easy but I had this problem with my second too. The more I encouraged or pressured her, the more she'd have tantrums.

These are the steps we took:
1) We totally forgot about the toilet for a while (didn't even talk about it) and went back to nappies.
2) During this time I bought her a book called "Big Girls go to the toilet" and we read it every night for 2 weeks before I even attempted to introduce her to the toilet again. It was a short book written for this purpose and had a button you pushed on every page that would make a flushing sound. Look in your local bookshop, they'll be able to help you.
3) Every member of the house (Mum, Dad and 5 yr old sister) would all go to the toilet with the door open and announce when we were going - so we encouraged her to watch what was going on so that she knew it was a positive experience for all of us. When we were finished we'd tell everyone and receive a round of applause.
4) Every time Mum, Dad and big sister went to the toilet we got a sticker to put on our toilet charts. It's a bit corny but it worked.
5) I bought a stool & a seat that sits under the toilet seat, so that she could use the "big" toilet and not a potty, this way she would be just like the rest of us.
6) After two weeks of all this carry on, we read the book one night and big sister went to toilet, we all applauded & she got her sticker, then I gently asked little sister if she wanted to try. She was a bit shy but did so with a brave look on her face and all of us watching. When a small bit of wee came out we gave a huge applause & lots of cuddles, she also got a new "toilet chart" to attach to the refrigerator and sticker for her chart.

It was a bit of effort for two weeks but from this day on it was absolutely easy sailing. In 4 weeks, she was dry at night too. You just need to make it a positive experience without any pressure, and you'll see it will work.

Good luck.

Answer 4

She may be resisting for attention. I think that you should stop stressing about it and try to stay calm and show her the potty and tell her that this is where she needs to go from now on. Put underwear on her and when she has an accident say it looks like you had an accident you better clean it up. Have her do most of the clean up and change her own clothes. When she does use the potty make a huge deal out of it but when she has accidents stay calm but make it her responsibility to deal with it. Trust me this is more of a power struggle for her and a way to get attention from you, when she sees that it isn't working she will start going on the potty.

Answer 5

Its hard to really tell you how to do so, since every child is different. Try a lot of praise, and for everytime that she goes do something special with her or for her. Give her things to look at while she is sitting there. A lot of it has to do with the fact if you are making her sit on the big potty or if you have a toddler potty. My daughter was so scared of the big potty that it really put a damper on training her. Good luck, she will come around. Like i said every child is different.

Answer 6

I think the best way to handle the situation is give her as much positive attention to the idea of the potty as possible, without being too aggressive. You might make her even more afriad of going if you make her feel forced into it. Read her "once upon a potty", it may help Also , try to get your other children to encourage her, too. Younger siblings always want to look up to their big brothers and sisters. I know you know that. Little rewards for trying to go wont hurt either.

Answer 7

You meant your daughter is crying and yelling, apparently she has had some problem with the fact of using the toilet, sounds as if something has scared her. Possibly the fear of falling in.. Did you try and get her a poty chair, they are not so intimidating. Or maybe a special treat for using the poty. Like a board that she can put a star on for using the poty. Or maybe soothing music in the bathroom, something to make her feel comfortable in the bathroom.. Maybe even one of those waterfall, type of displays, which they say the sound of water makes you more relaxed. Not an expert, but to me those sound like something to try that might help. Good luck.

Answer 8

I took my little guy to the store and let him pick out underwear. When we arrived home I tossed out all of his diapers as he watched. I put on his underwear and told him that he is a big boy now and he has to go in the potty. He wet his underwear three times that day and was totally disgusted by it. He began using the potty and I gave him little stickers for doing so. I hope this helps and good luck! :)

Answer 9

Get "Potty Training For Dummies." I used that on my son and he was potty trained so fast his day care asked what it was I was doing. His day care went out and bought several copies to loan out to parents.
I also bought him two other books,
"Everyone Poops" and "Joey's Potty"
I only read them to him while he sat on the potty. Which helped to defuse any frustrations involved. It is hard but you can do it! Good luck, Lisa

Answer 10

I am a dad with my son, every time I went ,I took him with me.

I got a call at work on day from my wife telling me I had to clean up the bathroom when I got home . he peed all over the place since he was to short to get an aim.he was trained before 2 years old. but he learned by example

try that dont force it just take her with you when you have to go.

Answer 11

When ever you or your spouse goes to the bathroom take her with you.. Better to be mommy.. Anyway no matter how long it takes for her to go to the bathroom sit in there with her on the big potty, and wait for her to go.. Praise her when she succeeds. I did this with my neice and within a week she was going by herself. I now have a daughter of my own who I will get to teach pretty soon.. Best of Luck....