I was in a bad first relationship for 3 years after high school. We fell madly in love with each other and I have never felt such an amazing emotion before. But, things slowly started getting bad. He wouldnt tell his parents that we were together, he would always make me pay for everything, would not let me see my friends and would play mind games with my head. 3 years later, I met someone accidentally and we hit it off straight away. I broke up with my first partner (which was VERY difficult) I have been with this new partner for just over a year now and we live together, but, no matter what I do, I cant get my ex out of my head and I still love him deeply. I desperately want to feel love again for my new partner and it hurts so much. I just dont understand why I cant love him
2007-03-28 17:08:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex always promised he would change, but he never did. I know that if he had of stayed the person he was originally, then we would still be together today
I think that by spending so much time with my new partner and moving too quickly, that we have 'burnt out' our relationship and it was such a stupid thing to do
2007-03-28 17:20:52 · update #1
You will be able to eventualy...You were with #1 guy for 3 years and in love the whole time...That's something that takes awhile to heal, no matter what people stay it will still hurt a year or more after...you just really have to focus on letting him go...Stop think about the good times, because he hurt you, what he did to you was wrong...You have to get over him hunny...Just move on and start to open your heart back up to guy #2
2007-03-28 17:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~small town girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate i had the same issue. You will have to let time and love run its course. Not to say that you should go back to relationship number one no. But ,and as old as this is it's true, love can't be turned on and off. You heart and your mind are not together right now. Your heart wants what you always had and your mind is saying that you need better. Just take time with yourself and see what you want. I will happen when you are not even think about it.
2007-03-29 00:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bre Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new guy may be great, but the first guy was the love of your life. You cant have that with anyone else. You either have to except that you will never feel the same way with theis new guy or break it off and make things work with your old guy. You cant choose your soulmate. I feel bad for you though, your in a tough spot. I would go for love tho. Good luck. I hope things wind up good for you!
2007-03-29 00:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you dont start a new relationship until you finish the one u are in-you cant just be with someone, meet someone new break up with the 1st one to be with the second and think everything is going to be normal!We all need time between relationships
2007-03-29 00:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you werent sure of breaking it off with your 1st partner but you did anyways cause you found someone else.... just ask yourself Who is it that you love the most I knw it sounds like a stupid question but ask urself that question. Who do I love the most? I think you just feel bad b\c of how things ended btwn you and your ex.
But try and figure out who you want & who you love the most and that should answer your question I reckon
2007-03-29 00:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be in an abusive relationship. You can't appreciate a man being good to you. Sounds like you need to spend some time on a couch and learn why you have this problem.
2007-03-29 00:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the person you are with now served a great purpose in helping you get away from a loser, but is perhaps not the "one" for you.
Now that you know you can live without jerk-o, find someone who is nice and lights your fire..raaaar
2007-03-29 00:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by roobee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just sound like you have not gotten over this young man that
emotional abuse you, you start a new realtionship with out
get the closure that you need with the first one. until you really
deal with how things were with him you wont be able to move
on. so just take time to deal with what going on, then maybe
then you can love this man. he deserve all your love.
2007-03-29 00:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't force it. let go of this relationship and move on. it sounds cliche, but make sure you love you first, sweetie, and your love life will become a lot clearer.
2007-03-29 00:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by mbleh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bc maybe its just not meant to be and honey you cant help who you love, i know.
2007-03-29 00:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by USCfan77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋