Ok so ive been in love with this girl for like 3 years but she didnt love me back, so we were "just freinds" after a while i started to finally get over it, and then i met this other girl who i started to like but i still wasnt completly over the first girl, so i didnt do anything. Now the first girl tells me that she does love me and has for the last year but didnt want to tell me. She tells me that we have to wait two years to date so she can get herself "settled". I had been waiting to hear her say that for years but then i started thinking of this new girl and i couldnt get her outa my head. I dunno what to do. I was almost over this girl. and i really like this new girl. Now im really confused. What should I do?
2007-03-28 17:06:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The decision is up to you after all its your life. However, the first girl didn't love you for 3 years, and now that you finally got yourself to move on without her, she has feelings? On top of that she wants you to wait for another 2 more years? Don't you think she just wants your attention? Plus, do you think you could hurt the second girl and leave her for the first girl who resented you for 3 years when you thought you were in love with her? These are just some questions that you should try to answer before you make any decision regarding who you think you should choose.
2007-03-28 17:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by jumba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, be careful how you use the word love. I believe it's a very powerful and special emotion. So when you begin to use it all the time or with just anyone you "like" it loses its uniqueness and becomes just another compliment. Take some time to think about what love should mean. Can you honestly be in love with someone that doesn't love you? Or is that just lust?
Second, when I read the title of your question I immediately knew my answer would be no one (without even reading the details). I would be hurt if a guy started to date me and then I later found out his inner feelings about another girl. You don't have to choose who to date. Play it cool until it becomes clear to you. There is no harm in hanging out with both so long as your intentions are clear (crystal!).
Third (practically speaking), no one knows who they are going to be in two years and what they are going to feel about another person unless they are already in a committed relationship (even then, sketchy). This getting "settled" business is garbage. What it should mean to you is now you have two years to get to know this other girl you're into. You're not on a chain.
2007-03-29 05:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't it concern you that she suddenly says she's loved you now that you are with someone else? If you love someone...you don't hold back - it's impossible. You know inside that you will always love her more if you decided to give this a try...if it doesn't work...you've lost the friendship on top of it. Stay with the other girl - she had the courage to let you know how she felt.
2007-03-28 17:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by neetah22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the second girl you gave the first one a chance a long time ago and she didn't take it so at lest give the second one a chance! Good Luck
2007-03-28 17:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick the new girl. waiting for the first girl is wasting your love life. what if the first girl don't wanna date you after two years? you'll be frustated. so, pick the new girl. she'll make you happy.
2007-03-28 17:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by alyson.s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "Who can't I live without?" It may be a tough question to answer, but eventually, you're going to have to answer it.
2007-03-30 13:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Catty411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋