I asked my friend why he did that and he said that it's because he owes a debt to his parents. They are the ones who raised him and send him to school. His dad even told me that he was his "investment" and lives the good life back in the PI. While my buddy and his wife are struggling. I guess from my understanding a parent puts his kid to school and raise him right so that in return he would be able to do the same for his or her children. Not once did my parents asked me to pay them back for my education or my upbringing. We argued for a little while about this issue and he ended it with "It's just part of our culture" I don't think that's true, is it? . If there is anyone here who can explain this to me a little better I'd appreciate it.
2007-03-28 17:01:20 · 11 answers · asked by least_likely2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a Canadian living in the Philippines i know where you are coming from. at first i found it strange but after living here i have realized that their family values and the closeness of the family is stronger here than alot of places.I have met alot of people who have left to work oveseas and they all send money back home to the parents and even in alot of cases to their younger siblings so they to can go to school and get a better life. they do not see this as strange as it is their way of life.also when ever they travel they will bring back boxes of gifts for the whole family including cousins,nephews even the next door neighbor. Hope this helps you understand the culture here
2007-03-28 17:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by james s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm filipino and my mom is always sending money back to our family in the Philippines, but its actually because they're not as fortunate as us and need the money. I guess it is part of tradition to send money to your family, but the reasons why would vary.
2007-03-28 17:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by vi_van54 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend pretty much summed it up for you...They do feel they need to send money back home to help their family as it IS what they do in their culture~ I worked with a very nice Phillipino man once, and he also sent money out of every pay to his family back home as well as take care of his family (wife and child) here in Canada.
You may not fully understand it, nor do I, but I Respect that~ :)
2007-03-28 17:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Least, just like you were raised to show up for holidays because it is your culture. This is their culture. I know it isn't the way we were raised but you need to accept it and respect it. Think of the great love and respect your friend feels for his parents. Why does this bother you soooo much? Your friend is proud to do this one small thing for the people who gave him everything. I admire their customs although I don't think we should change ours. Good luck -k-
2007-03-28 17:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the parents are struggling then yes he should help them because they are his parents, but he shouldn't be giving more than he can.... wouldn't you help out your parents if they were struggling, but if they have a job and they are okay financially then he has no obligation to be sending them money he should save it for his family
2007-03-28 17:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Aracely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from India..every month I am also sending money to them..its our culture rather its our duty to look after our parents.,my dad was in the central govt.dept., after retirement .,now getting pension .., actually that is more than enough for my dad and mom to live....and they never ask me any monetary help from me but still its my duty to keep them happy., and well secured, I think the same in the Philippine s also., back in india we are all staying together...under one roof..,...my parents are always there as grand parents to my children.,and for us they are like pillars.,
2007-03-29 01:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a kenyan living in america since this year .my sister and brother came like 8yrs ago.coming from a third world country isint easy.pple trie hard to get good grades in highskul and they still cant get to college or its too expensive so they give up in life but some like my bro&siz tried even harder with my mum &got a chance to kam hea.hea they got atleast enuf money to send to as back home and help my mum so that we can have a better life.they sufferd but now my whole family is hea plus my mum but we still send money to pple we know in kenya.the ans in short when ur brought up in a poor lifestyl u learn to appreciate more what ur parents did in raising you up.
2007-03-28 17:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a poor country. He is a good son who loves and respects his parents. His wife should be glad he is like this because he will probably always take care of her also. He is a good man and it doesn't sound like it is any of your business so butt out..
2007-03-28 17:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its true.. its that way in the east.. i am from india... we too are responsible for our parents life when they grow old.. we have seen our parents do it for their parents and we intend to do the same for ours.. it isnt an obligation per say.. but its our circle of life... first your parents take care of u and then u take care ofyour parents
life in the eastern countries is hard.. a huge struggle.. most countries dont have social security ... and its a tough life
2007-03-28 21:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of respect...loyalty...love of family.....It's their culture...
2007-03-28 18:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by LeeBee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋