Getting Desperate..Please Read This!?

Question

I know I already posted a question like this, but no one was responding..I am getting desperate.please help...please read it all..I know it is a little long, but please..

I was raped by my uncle when I was nine years old. I have been having horrible flashbacks/nightmares..I can't sleep at night because I feel like someone is watching me and I know when I do go to sleep I am going to have the same flashback/nightmare that I always have. I am so sick of being afraid of everything. Not a day goes by that I don't think about it, I am ready to give up and end it all, but I that is not the answer..although I am ready to try it..How can I move past this and get on with my life. I am 19 now, so it has been 10 years since it happened. I just 'remembered' that it happened about 3 years ago and I just reported it about a month ago. I never have any time to go to a therapist because of work, and I cant really afford an online therapist...any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I was raped when I was at my dads house for the weekend, he was sleeping at the other end of he house...

Answer 1

It is not too late to get therapy now. Call your police station and ask where it is offered for rape victims. Also it is not too late to press charges against your uncle. It will give you closure. He may still be molesting little girls. Rapists don't stop you know.
You have to take steps to help yourself. It will empower you.

Answer 2

I have been in your shoes, and the feelings you are having are normal. It sounds a lot like Post Traumatic Stress Snydrone, and you need to go and get some help. I know you say you don't have the time with working, but you need to put yourself first. The last think you want to do is end it all-the old geezer isn't worth it. If you really can't get to a doctor, then I would recommend going to a minister. They are usually free and will work with your schedule. Also, look in the phone book under support groups or call your local hospital/clinic and they should be able to give you some referral numbers to call. It really helped me to overcome it when I got into a support group with other people that had the same problems i had had. I didn't have the nightmares/flashbacks, but I did really feel guilty about it even though I did nothing to provoke it and you didn't either. You will get past it, but it won't happen overnight. It takes time. You've had all this built up inside of you for 10 years, and it's going to take a while. In all reality, you need a therapist who will listen and knows how to deal with it professionally. I don't know that you ever get over it, but you can learn how to cope with it and get on with your life. If you are losing sleep over it you will get run down and sick. So, even if you have to call in sick at work I would do that and go to a doctor. Good luck.

Answer 3

Try the forum mentioned, and join free at www.myspace.com Click on "groups", in an upper toolbar, and select: "other", and type: "rape victim" and select a group, maybe changing later, possibly exchanging IM or email addresses. Yahoo; groups & Google: groups & others. I would also take up self defence classes for women. With the nightmares, you need to visualise yourself, as vividly as possible, confronting your attacker, and kneeing/kicking him in the groin, yelling loudly: "I've had enough of this; GO AWAY!!!" Do this just before lights out every night, and want this as much as you can, so you will eventually communicate this message to the unconscious part of your mind. If the nightmares return, as they sometimes do, practice the technique again. I would also practice for 20 mins daily, and whenever needed. the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy", or gaze at a burning candle in a quiet darkened room.

Answer 4

By all means, see a therapist. Memories are repressed because the shock is too much for the mind to bear.
a therapist can help you deal with the shock from the terrible things that happened to you. Believe or not, you can get over this trauma and get on to have a happy life.
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Answer 5

I am really sorry about what happened to you. It is the most horrendous thing that can happen to anyone.

It happened to me over thirty years ago, and it stills haunts me.

I have been able to survive this with free counseling from the Mental Health Dept. in my town. I don't know where you live but they have clinics every where.

But seek the help now, you need it if not, you may never be well again. It won't go away on its own. You need to make time away from work and do this.

I live in Ma, if you e mail me and tell me your town I will find out for you where it is in your town.

Good luck, God Bless you.

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Answer 6

Trust me, these feeling do not just go away. You need to make time to go to a therapist. That's it. Mental health is super important. You cannot try to forget this because it will not happen. Take care of the situation while you are young.

I have had some problems in my life, and I let it go. As the years went by, my mental health was deteriorating. I now take care of myself because I have two children to take care of also. Thes

Answer 7

Go see a therapist! If you are worried about taking off too much time from work, go to your human resources office and ask for FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) paperwork. The therapist should be able to fill it out for you. FMLA often is used to care for dependent family members and a lot of people don't know they can take FMLA leave for themselves. Under this act, your employer can't penalize you for doctor appointments. You don't have to tell them the specifics as to why you are seeing a doctor, and they can't deny you off time.

Answer 8

You need to confess this to your mother and let her help you get help. There is nothing anyone online in an open community with no professional training can help you get past your issues. if you have any kind of insurance at all from your work, you need to take the time off. This is a larger issue than your job is.

Answer 9

you should really get some help and tell somebody there is a lot of therapy out there for you and support groups and i'm sure what you are feeling is probably very normal and very scary and you should tell somebody remember it is not your fault yiu should tell your dad if you feel comfortable and just get some therapy. It sounds like you have post traumatic stress syndrome. good luck

Answer 10

hi You definately need some help dealing with this, by not taking the time to get help you are subconsiously denying your own self worth & prolonging your own suffering.Let go the best way you can, write a letter to your attacker telling how you feel & BURN it or throw it into the ocean ,tie it to helium balloons & LET IT GO! This can be very healing as you are subconsiously saying that you are ready to let go.
I was also abused about 12 years ago & didnt deal with it for 8 of those 12 years, this affected every aspect of my life until I made a consious decision to let go.By holding on you are giving your power away to your attacker, they have consumed enough of your life as it is. & believe me they probably dont think about you everyday so dont waste your life thinking about him.
try meditation & yoga as this is very good for your mind,body & spirit.
dont ever doubt your own self worth...
if you ever need to talk to some one feel free to email me.

Answer 11

Understanding you cannot afford or find time to see a personal therapist, you might try joining this forum of other victims... www.rape-victim-support.com ...it's just very important to get help so you can move on & leave that tragedy behind you! Good luck!