so - is this sin or nature?

Question

when you have the urge to be sexually active is it just lust and sin or is nature giving you hints what your body needs? and why does it matter if you are married or not! feelings are feelings ! a piece of paper from a church does not matter in matters of physical well being , correct?

I do not think that smashing some ones face in could be in the same category as having sexual feelings - now we are just talking smack!

Answer 1

Sex is a natural biological function. Don't feel guilty!

Answer 2

It is the sin nature. Have you ever felt like smashing somebody in the face? Is that your body telling you its needs or is that anger out of control? Have you ever felt like stealing? Is that just your mind telling you that you need that item or is it jealousy getting you into trouble?

It is easy to justify sin by saying it feels normal or feels good. In the end, your inner conscience will tell you it is wrong, until you do it enough times that your conscience gets shut down.

So, what does it matter whether you have a piece of paper or not? Okay, I go down to the local car dealer, take the keys of a hot car and drive off. What does it matter whether I have the piece of paper called a title? Try that one on the cop that pulls you over. Or go for a job interview and tell the interviewer that you don't have that piece of paper called a diploma, but hey, what does it really matter? Or move into a house that has a for sale sign on it. Who really needs that piece of paper called a deed?

The bottom line is, your body may want sex and enjoy it, but that does not make it right to take such a valuable asset and give it to someone who is not willing to pay the cost of commitment. Then what happens when you do want to get married, but you are a used body? Of course you are already familiar with the usual arguments of STDs, pregnancy, abortion/adoption, post-traumatic stress that comes with the guilt, higher risk of various cancers from taking the pill for too long, etc.

And, since God created you, if you believe there is a God, He probably knows what is best for you. I never knew anyone who remained a virgin until marriage ever saying it was not worth the wait, but I sure have spent tons of hours talking to, counseling, and helping those who bought into your theory, and later in life are paying the longterm consequences.

Answer 3

Lust is an instinct which everyone has, although some are more highly sexed than others. In the modern day, marriage is the best and most useful situation in which to have sex. The baby will have a stable home, a mother and a father, and
a viable economic framework to grow up in.
Having urges is atural but does not mean they should always be acted upon.

Answer 4

GOD created in each person the need and urge to reproduce. What a person does with that urge (whether lust after everything or practice self-control) is their choice.

Your right, A piece of paper from a church does not matter, but vows and commitments taken before GOD do.

Answer 5

The urge isn't sin. How you act on it is. Sin has consequences. If how you act on it is having an affair with another man's wife, you will suffer the consequences if he decides to take a nail gun to your temple. Not that he's justified at all; but you just reaped what you sowed. That's the cycle of sin.

Feelings are feelings. They lie. Or have you only had feelings for one person in your whole life? Or have you truly been in love with every single person you've ever had feelings for? If so, why aren't you with them all now?

The institution of marriage is about a lifelong commitment. It's supposed to be protection against the heartbreak of strings and strings of broken relationships. Mate for life!

Answer 6

Your body says "YES!" but your morals say "NO!", is that the story? Although morals are believed to be originated from religions to control people and prevent them from doing what they want, they are actually put into place to make people's lives happier. To have sex before marriage may mean a child out of wedlock and a kid who may grow up in a fatherless home and a mother who resents him because she wasn't ready to have a baby. It also means that a 14 year old doesn't end up having a baby she doesn't yet have enough maturity to raise it. It also means that a baby will be born only when its parents are prepared to have him, and not before. The same reason your not supposed to kill, cheat, and lie. To make people's lives overall easier and happier (although it may not be so easy when your 16 and in love with your boyfriend and you both feel like your love is eternal).

But the reality is, all throughout time despite the moral values placed within society, there have always been unplanned pregnancies, sex before marriage, and all that other stuff. There probably always will be. If you want to talk church and bible, the bible also states that God understands that we WILL sin, that it is in our nature. We are sinners. We will have sex before marriage, we will lie, we will do all types of things that go against the set moral values. Not all of us will commit every sin out there, but you know what I mean. Sin will exist in one way or another.
But if you do want to bring up the subject of church and morals, just remember that God himself says that he will forgive all our sins. It seems sometimes that He's the only one thats willing to do that. Every self-righteous religious person out there just seems to want to point fingers and condemn everyone out there who isn't following their "moral views" to a tee.
You have to do what feels right for YOU. If your lust, passion, and desires overtake what you feel is right, I don't have any say in whether or not its wrong. I will say this, though. You certainly wouldn't be alone. Everyone goes through it. Its just our bodies growing up and hormones raging.

Answer 7

sexual urges are natural instincts. social rules applied to sexual behaviors are enforced to keep the peace in the tribal encampment. humans aren't by nature monogamous for if they were sperm would not carry antibody properties that fight off the sperm of competing males. the fact that sperm have developed this defense mechanism indicates that, in the wild, the human female couples with more than one partner.

PS. i've been with the same mate, monogamously, for almost 25 years. we never got the blessings of a church or signed the paperwork for government approval and we're still doing just fine.

Answer 8

Well I suppose if you never saw anyone else having s*x and you did not fool around and fondle anyone or let them do it to you and you one day just were overcome with a specific desire to get it on.... then it might be nature. DOGS are that way.
People watch garbage and mess around and gradually get there. People don't wake up one day and find they are in heat. It is a gradual path to lust and sin.
If you smoke for years and then quit you feel bad. Those are feelings but they are not in and of themselves--you are hooked on nicotine and are going through withdrawal. You need it because you set yourself up to need it.
physical well being?? so are you trying to make abstinence a disease needing treatment?? come on. get some self control.

Answer 9

Sexual arousion is not a sin. God did it; He put that drive in us. But because of sin in the beginning of time, some of the perverted ways we think about sexual arousion is a sin. When sin entered the world, it changed our mindsets about sex and sexuality.
God clearly allows marital sex, so it's not the arousion, it's our mindset and our actions towards it if we're not married.
And it matters whether or not we're married because in the Bible, God tells us to "flee fornication" many times.
He tells us these things because He loves us and He's looking out for our well-being. But we can't keep thinking that we know more about our own bodies than our Creator.

Answer 10

It is natural to have those feelings. However it is your choice what you do with those feelings. If you act on them outside of marriage, then it is a sin. If you decide to wait til marriage then it is not a sin. There are several reasons why you should wait. There is the possibility of pregnancy,STDS, broken heart. These are only a few of the reasons why you should wait til you are married.

Answer 11

if You had to go with every feeling you felt you would be in trouble with ppl and with the law. God created man and woman to be as one in marriage. Your thought proccess is what gives you feelings. If you have thoughts of sex than that is what your body is going to urge for. Why give up alot for a few mintues of pleasure when you can wait for someone who is going to respect you for being a lady and not wanting to put out.