I'm in my 2nd year of college, and my mom doesn't want me to date or be in a relationship. She says you barely know anybody and its hard to trust anybody at all. She told me to forget about dating until I'm 22, just because my 4 cousins never dated throughout college. I've gone on dates before in high school (never in a long-term relationship). I met this guy in one of my classes, and I've known him for a few months. We have a few mutual friends, who are trustworthy. They have leadership positions in the university, and they're all really studious and nice. I really like this guy, when I first met him I felt I had discovered a hidden diamond, as one might say. Why on earth is my mom acting so weird???
2007-03-28 16:41:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, my dad did tell me once of how my mom used to date this really attractive guy who treated her really badly, throughout college. my dad didn't elaborate beyond that. my parents met while they were upperclassmen. and my dad told me never to mention that bf to her ...(?)
2007-03-28 17:05:22 · update #1
Elle, it sounds to me like your mom is scared you will go too far too soon. How old was your mom when she got serious with a boy. Did she have to drop out of college? Something is definitely going on there. Are you attending a university away from home or are you going to school and living at home? If you are in your second year of college you are over l8 and if you are living away date who you want and just don't tell Mom so much of your business. My daughter stayed at home at your age. I often wished she was away at school so that as she went through the various stages necessary to become a full fledged adult that I had not had to have them stuck in my face-lol. When kids go away to school they are making a lot of decisions for themselves. It is your turn to grow up and your Mom needs to learn how to let go. My daughter, one very smart young lady, set up what we call Mom Day with me. We spend one day a week, either dinner or shopping or just hanging out and the rest of the time I agreed to not get in her face about her business-lol. it has been working great for us. It's funny but when our children are small they are the ones having the "attention attacks" and when they are grown, we the parents are the ones having the "attention attacks" -- Your mom needs some tlc from you. Give her your best love - tell her you are now grown - and that you need to decide who to date. it's not Mom's call. Good luck -k-
2007-03-28 16:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't say how your mom is really acting, other than weird, and that could mean many things. But, I suspect your mom is worried that you won't finish your studies, and you will get interested in someone for a long term relationship, and you will let all your college stuff go! She may not be right, but just treat her with a LOT OF RESPECT and let her know that you are really going to finish, by keeping your grades up where they should be. And when you go home on a visit, don't talk too much about your "hidden diamond," as this may make her feel insecure about your relationship with her as well. If you love someone else, then you will be spending time with them, and forgetting your relationship with your parents. So just love her, and accept her the way she is right now. She may also be going through a physical thing called menopause, and if that is the case, she may act even weirder. Look it up on the internet, and then you will or may understand enough to have compassion for your mom.
2007-03-28 23:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly thats weird. I think once your in your second year of college you have discovered yourself but not maybe completely because you have lived away from your parents and know what you are capable to doing when no one is watching. The only thing I can think off is this is the sexually prime I guess for men. from like 18-24 or something. Thats the only reason I could think off but i could be wrong. Thats why you mom says with till 22 since girls usually date older men. Dont see your mom as being controlling she has good intentions. Im sure she doesnt want to see you get hurt by some guy. At the end of the day your a young adult and should be free to date who you want to because experience is the best teacher.
2007-03-28 23:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by jason j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno my mom freaked out about my boyfriend too, but it will take God for her to allow herself to let you go. My mother treated me as an adult in some aspects in the aspect of having a boyfriend - she still see's me as mommys' little girl. And now, I have a boyfriend and she is a bit better, but she still has her ways. Its gonna be hard, but with time and God she will let you breathe soon......
Pray*
2007-03-28 23:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with her, move out and do whatever the h e l l you want. You're an adult now and should be able to date if/who you want to.
2007-03-28 23:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by a person 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mom is like my mom.
she just loves you so she's just trying to be protective.
but you're pretty darn mature now. talk to her one on one. tell her that you're no longer a baby girl and that you have to experience new things in life now.
she loves you...
2007-03-28 23:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋