Long story short, I almost married this guy like six years ago and I ruined the relationship and we would keep running into him over the years and I kept breaking his heart. The last time we talked he said he didn't want to see me or talk to me ever again and changed his number. Now it's been about two years since we've last talked, but I am sending out announcements (not getting married, but a professional advancement) to all of my family and friends letting them know my good news. Throughout everything me and this guy have always been friends. I don't remember his home address so I was going to send it to his work address (no problems sending it there, he has his own company). I was wondering if it would be wise to do that or would it be considered stalking. I just want to send him the annocement and write a short note just saying something to the affect of "Just thought of you, hope life is treating you good." What do you guys think?
2007-03-28 16:27:39 · 6 answers · asked by rosecoloredglasses4me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe just let it die. While I don't think it is stalking, I don't know how he feels about it.
You make it sound like you just want to share something good that happened to you, but he might see it as if you were bragging about it. This happened to one relationship of mine a few years back. I just wanted to keep contact, so I just emailed her asking how was she, and that I've got a new car that I had wanted for a long time. But she took it as if I was bragging that I was soooo rich I got a new car and was using it to get her back, and was not nice. Oops!
It might not be the same here, but just watch out for this.
Take care!.... oh, btw, congratulations on your advancement!
2007-03-28 16:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should honor his wishes that he didn't want to see you or talk to you ever again. He knows where you are if he changes his mind. He did go to a lot of trouble changing his number so you couldn't call him. I wouldn't call what you want to do "stalking" but I would call it very inconsiderate at the least. Let the guy beâ¥
2007-03-28 16:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont write into detail just keep the annoucement brief like it already sounds now..
then again unless you plan on having a comeback reunion with him I wouldnt really bother but its soley up to you if you think its the right thing to do then do it.
I wouldn't consider it stalking
2007-03-28 16:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Respect his feelings. Hearing from you will just rake up all his pain again. There is no need for him to know the news. To get in touch again would just be selfish. I'm sure in some way it gives you pleasure to know that he loved you so much and you miss that attention, but please - leave the guy in peace.
2007-03-28 16:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by martina_ie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have repeatedly shattered his heart, i would say don't send it. Don't get his hopes up again only to dash them again. That would be cruel.
2007-03-28 16:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by fair blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uve made him suffer enough, just leave him alone, he doesnt want to c u or talk to u ever again so leave it at that and move on with ur life.
2007-03-28 16:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋