Every since we moved on post, my daughter has been afraid to be alone in her room, she says she is afraid the bad guys are going to come to find her daddy. I feel it is partially my fault because she asked why daddy had to go on the ship and be away from us for such a long time, I told her daddy was a hero. She says heroes fight bad guys and every since......I feel so bad. HELP! what can I do to fix this?
2007-03-28 16:17:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First of all, God bless you for your sacrifice. Don't feel bad. You didn't do anything wrong and her daddy IS a hero. May God keep him safe and bring him home.
You know, I think that in this situation, I'd let her stay in my room when she needs to. Encourage her to be alone in her room but don't push. Get her involved in activities. Have her talk to other servicemen and women. Focus on the positives.
And get her to help decorate her room, making it a haven for herself...put a CD player in there and play soft music like Enya or Kenny G or some classical...something soft and soothing. (I did this with my daughter. She's 2 and I put Vivaldi on her CD player...I called it "ballerina music" and now she's hooked and listens to it every night at bedtime.)
Encourage her to read before bed. Get ahold of the American Girl series (it's so cute!) or books by Judy Blume and Beverly Cleary, Road Dahl or Lucy M. Montgomery...Anne of Green Gables (yeah, I'm Canadian!) and Story Girl. They are great! As you tuck her in, read with her. Not only will you be putting her to sleep with good thoughts in her mind, you will encourage a love of reading.
My husband says that you need to remember to pray for daddy. He was in Iraq and said that the prayers are felt by the people serving...pray for daddy and the whole unit. He says that if you foster a trust in God you will also help your daughter alleviate her stress and anxiety...she will know where to put her trust too.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-28 18:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard trying to calm a childs fears. I would tell her that daddy is doing it to protect her. Reassure her that there are no bad guys in your house ( give her the tour) and even tell her that the bad guys are far away. At this point you just need to show her that she is safe.
2007-03-28 23:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can help with this one! Take a jar of water ( with a lid) and put it in her room. Take it in there with her, and tell her that it is magical water, that Daddy ( or anyone else she thinks is a super hero type person!) sent to protect her! Tell her a great story of how special she must be to have this magical water sent to her. Put it somewhere close to her bed so that she can see it! And tell her all about how it will keep everyone but you and her out of the room!
And thank you and your husband for serving our country!!!!!
2007-03-28 23:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
perhaps the best thing to do is have your husband write to her as often as possible -have her make him a care package and write him letter too-once she sees that hes getting in contact with her she will feel more at ease. Just keep talking to her and reassuring her that daddy will be safe and will get back to us as soon as he can
2007-03-29 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try this its easy to try to help them out in things like that tell her you saw on the inter net or you read some were that mommys can make bad guy spray you can spray it around the house but let her do the spraying so she can spray where ever she wants and tell her to say a prayer after and she wont be scared if that dont work try a chaplin the post has stuff for you and people to help
2007-03-28 23:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by dadof_2grls 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEAR
UNTIL YOUR HUSBAND GETS HOME
LET HER SLEEP IN THE BED WITH YOU OK
AND SAY TO HER NOW LITTLE GIRL THIS IS ONLY UNTIL YOU DADDY COMES HOME OK
DEAR MAKE HER UNDER STAND IT
AND READ HER A STORY AT NIGHT OK
TAKE CARE PS HAVE A GIRL SLEEP OVER ARE CAMP OUT TALK GIRL TALK TAKE A BUBBLE BATH
TOGETHER WATCH A MOVIE POP SOME POP CORN
PAINT YOUR NAILS JUST SPEND TIME WITH HER BUT LET HER KNOW IT IS ONLY UNTIL DADDY COMES HOME OK DEAR
TAKE CARE
PS I AM VERY SORRY TO HERE SHE IS HAVING A REALLY ROUGH TIME WITH THIS OK.
2007-03-28 23:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that dad might fight the bad guys but he also helps the good guys. and tell her she does'nt need to be scared because mum is next to her all the time to take care of her while he is away... and keep her occupied so she won't think of her dad all the time..
2007-03-28 23:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your just going to have to reassure her the same way you tried to explain why daddy is gone you need to explain that she is going to be safe and that daddy is doing a very good thing .
2007-03-28 23:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Snickerlicious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to make her feel wanted and like someone wants her
and try to keep her busy to keep her from worring so much and teel her dad will soon come home he is fighting for you and his country
2007-03-29 10:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by MiSs MoM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋