I haven't spoken to my biological father for over 5 years. I had confronted him about something that happened in the past, he denied it and was upset that i confronted him infront of his wife(not my mother). He wasn't around much throughout my life...he denied his behavior and will not take my calls, returns b-day & father day cards (return to sender)...i hear that he is very sick(cancer)....what should i do, if anything? thanks for your help in advance.
2007-03-28 16:11:50 · 13 answers · asked by Evie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry. But the ball is in his court, you've done everything and still your getting no response. You can't make it happen on your own...he has to try also. I wouldn't ever give up hope, but you can only do what you can do. So don't be so hard on yourself.
2007-03-28 16:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have the desire to straighten out this relationship, you have to forget things that have happened in the past, if you can. Try to see past former hurts, and accept him as he is, it sounds like you do not have much time, and pretty soon you will not be able to. I think you may have to be the mature one to accomplish this, I don't think he will change. Good luck, in the long run, it's worth making the effort.
2007-03-28 16:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try to reach out to him again, but try not to have high expectations. He may be thinking his life over and want to make things right, but it doesn't always have an happy ending. Try to give him a call or send a card and see what kind of response you get.
2007-03-28 16:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all if you truly want to be apart of his life you really need to talk to his wife. I know it's hard to do sometimes ..but she will be your best ali if you want him back in your life. See if you can make her see how you feel and then possibly she will talk to him and try and bridge the gap. If your father has cancer you will want to feel like you did everything you could to mend the hurt. Will be too late if he passes. Then if everything goes south you will not have any guilt. You will know in your heart that you did everything you could to mend the break. Good luck and God Bless
2007-03-28 16:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is your father not Jesus Christ so he is not perfect.Neither are you,so instead of you both holding this childish grudge let go and let him know that you are forgiving him for whatever he did,because when he's gone you'll wish that you would have.
2007-03-28 16:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by hendersonswoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I suppose it depends on what the "confrontation" was about. In retrospect perhaps you wish you had spoken to him about it privately instead of bringing up the past in front of his present wife. You have made no mention to trying to apologise to him about this.
I suspect whatever it was that you confronted him with caused him problems with his present wife and that's why he doesn't want anything to do with you. Try to see him in person, explain that 5 years ago you were less mature and now you see your error and want to correct it.
2007-03-28 16:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Melek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask the same about my mother if I didn't hate her with every last vestige of my being. She walks out and starts a new family while my father smacks me around with a belt (on the good days) when he comes home drunk on the weekends.
2007-03-28 16:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds very immature for his age. You tried to patch things up with him, but he keeps behaving like a child there is nothing you can do but pray for him. Just leave him alone, and let it go at least you can say you tried.
2007-03-28 16:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 04:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to his house and talk to him in person.. i do hope you are going because you want to repair the relationship and not to clear your conscious before he passes should that happen
2007-03-28 16:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by prettygirl_80650 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋