I am currently attending the UQ Gatton campus and I am living on campus. Before I left to go stay at Gatton, my boyfriend promised me he would find a good job and stuff while I commit myself to studying hard at University. Trouble is, he is so picky he hasn't got a job and i arrive at home in a week. He beat up a small kid with the kids bike helmet. He also keeps constantly using my family for money. For example, one time when he came to the shops, he asked for a belt and my mom had to buy one for him because he knew how to get his way, like manipulate my mom. he got me nothing on Valentines day and we keep taking him out on occassions. And I heard it happens to his friend Liam (I am also Liam's friend), all this going over and staying there and eating until late. Now I am at Uni he never calls, never texts and heck he never posts a letter. He doesn't know my yahoo so i am taking full advantage of this coz I need help (He also found my online blogs, both of them. invading privacy).help
2007-03-28 15:50:34 · 12 answers · asked by Tania P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now it is four days until i get back and he has come up with an excuse saying that his mother told him to look for a job in the easter holidays! I can't believe it I am already going to be home in four days and he decides to look for a job on the holidays, the only time i have to enjoy myself. What is this love? It doesn't sound like it to me, it sounds like he is being a total slob. He even said that I couldn't drink or flirt or even get to know some guys very well. Hey, I have had only one vodka cruiser, went clubbing, which was fun and I have some guy friends.he has some girl friends as well. I read his journal & he says he had a crush on a girl over the net for around two years & less and said he forgot about her when he started dating me. Bullsh!t i believe. Honestly, & how do you write a good break up email? Anyone know?
2007-03-31 20:45:36 · update #1
Dump him he sounds like trouble and you have to much going for you! Sorry for your trouble but in life you deserve better.
2007-03-28 15:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Does he treat you well? Is he a slob?
Even if you do love him and if he treats you well, he has to learn some responsibility. He can't survive in the real world by scabbing off other people.
I think you and your family have been too kind and babied him too much, he thinks it's acceptable behavior. If you eventually break up he'll be on his own, with no experience of independence.
You should follow through with this deadline, for both your sakes, imo.
2007-03-28 15:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, fellow UQ'er. I sure miss that part of the world (as I am from and now live in the U.S.). Perhaps you should be asking yourself what you value...in yourself and in a relationship. How many, if any, of those values are you willing to adjust or compromise? If it means sacrificing who you are and what you're about, then is it worth it to stay with a person who can't see you and love you for those same reasons? And trust your gut. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-28 16:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you should dump him. first of all, he is not responsible. second of all, you are the one who said that he is using you & your family. Just ask yourself these 2 questions, is this the man you really want to spend the rest of your life with? and Is he going to be a good father for your future kids? after you answer the questions, you will come up with the solutions for the whole thing. good luck
2007-03-28 16:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by AYUD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. Any relationship should be mutually enriching and an equal partnership, on all its facets. Whether it is emotional, physical, financial, etc. If you feel being abused and if you feel that he is more of a burden than a partner, it is best to let him go. What matters is how you feel and any relationship that makes you feel that way is just not worth it.
2007-03-28 15:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of elligible, mature, hard-working men in college. Your guy sounds completely ungrateful and manipulative, can you even imagine how much worse it would be to marry him?
2007-03-28 16:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Just the fact that you have to sneak on your Yahoo account to get help shows that he's no good.
2007-03-28 16:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be considered loser bait, drop this idiot. You can do better than him, can't you? Pleas say yes. Get rid of him. He sounds really disgusting.
2007-04-04 19:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him! he sounds like a low life and you sound way too nice for him! you deserve and can do much better than that!
2007-03-28 17:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he's not worth it...(i had a similar experience)
2007-03-28 15:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋