I have a problem expression my feeling?

Question

frist i want to thank ppl who anwers my questions....ok frist let me see my child hood wasnt the best..i have had alot step dads come in out of my life i have been through alot people calling me dumb stupid even some family members .and now im at the point where when something bothers me i keep it in side.. i just dont say nothing and i build up and i just explode....and when i feel hurt me heart like literally hurts and my heart starts pounding really fast.. and then i get mad and start crying and throwing things.. and sometimes i want to run away or do something so that my family can feel the pain i havemy step dad tells me to count to 10 and stuff but its doesnt work..any help

Answer 1

I have the same problems/feelings. The only diff. is that I didn't have any step dads. My family members have also called me stupid and other names, and now when people tell me things I either don't believe them or ignore them. I also have a hard time expressing my feelings to people. My husband gets mad/frustrated about it, but I can't help it. I start crying, and have the same feelings you have explained when I get mad about things instead of just talking about it when it bothers me. I would like to know how to help this problem too. Sorry if I just wrote a bunch of nothingness for help for my answer, but I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone with these feelings.

Answer 2

You step dad is kinda right, you should try to find a happy place.. you remember in finding nemo FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE... well you need to find one somewhere, even if it is a day at the park when you were 7.. I went through alot of the same thing as a child, didnt know if I was coming or going, it made my adult life real hard at first because I hold everything in.. So you need to start telling people what you think.. even if it is bad, you need to express yourself.. it is better to let it out then keep it in, I understand you may not know how to do that just yet but .. I had to at the age of 20 learn how to do this, and the throwing things, well that dont help but for a minute.. Try something other then that, like for me I can get so mad I will go outside and scream, yeah it lasted for 30 seconds but I was all better, and now with age I if mad enough will run, just run and run and run until I start cring and cant do it anymore... you are doing one step I didnt do, you are asking for help at a younger age... Try going to a councilor... and please please dont run away.. if you ever ever need to talk, IM me it is under my info... Take care sweetie... and you do have people that care.. and those are the ones answering this question

Answer 3

Firstly, let me tell you whats good when you express your feeling. You feel free. When you store up so many emotions it gets so packed up. like a closet. you keep on filling it with so many stuffs till one day you find out that there is no more room to fill up. But if you throw out some stuff before you fill it again there is always room for more. Start with expressing happiness. Show of that you are happy when something happy comes up. smile and laugh. Even if it is just those small little things that happens in life like you found a dollar on your way to the store. Then move on to sadness. Cry.. please do. tears are the best way to let out all that feeling. Eventually you will learn how to express anger, in a good way i mean.

I am good at expressing my feeling, i say whatever i feel. It feels good when you understand what you feel, and it helps when others understand it too. So make them understand how you feel. Talking makes me feel very good.

I hope one day you can leave the past and pick out all the good memories of it, I am sure there are some. Look ahead and see the beautiful future you can build. All the best.

Answer 4

Write out your feelings in a journal or letter. Write about how it makes you feel, everything, and just keep writing until you stop feeling bad or hurt. It really does help, and is a great way to organize your thoughts by seeing them on paper.

You could keep the journal private or write a letter to whomever has upset you and show it to them, letting them know how they made you feel.