I have always thought that when you love someone, you put them and their well-being before your own.
Do you agree? Disagree? Any thoughts on the "L" word?
2007-03-28 15:44:05 · 17 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not exactly, I go with the attitude that If I cannot take care of myself, how can I expect to take care of someone else? So, in that respect I am number one, but when I love someone, I love them completely and their well-being is just as important as my own.
2007-03-28 15:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Katykins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Socks, please bear with me as I write about what you have asked. Love--true love ,is a whole group of things that come together to make up that word. It is not what you think it is. You must retain your individuality, and self respect---you must demand an equal in a love relationship. You must always be alert for any lapse in good judgement and never give it all away for the sake of love. That is what leads to monumental meltdowns of a relationship and a person's self esteem.You must maintain the spirit and the soul that makes you the person that you are. Very often a girl will just give up everything for a guy who isn't trying as hard to make it work. Then you think you have to work harder and harder to keep this guy--when in reality, he is using you and you just plain peter out and give up--exhausted from trying so hard. That is not love. Find a guy that appreciates you for who you are and what you have to offer---find an equal partner that is respectful and courteous, educated and hard working. Someone who is dignified and moral, happy and caring. That is a good start. Relax, be nice, and good luck.
2007-03-28 22:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many types of love, and levels of love...simply put someone you love is someone you care a lot for. Not everyone puts those they love before themselves though...some have them on an equal plane, and others put themselves first.
Whatever works for the individual is fine...some people always put others first and thus neglect themselves (which is not good)...others always put themselves first and come across as selfish, when it's their right to choose who is most important to them...perhaps they realize they cannot do for others if they aren't taken care of and so they make sure they have what they need, so they can also do for others.
2007-03-28 22:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I am very much in love with my husband and I most definitely put him before myself.
2007-03-28 22:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you put their well-being before your own, but yet maybe you keep it on par with your own. I always figured that you can't truly love someone else unless you love yourself...
2007-03-28 22:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly. You can't totally sacrifice who you are in the name of love. That's true of romantic, motherly and friendship love. Love often makes us want to make those sacrifices, but I don't think that it should be expected.
2007-03-28 22:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Counselor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree
2007-03-28 22:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time sure. That doesn't mean that one should let the other watch whatever they want to on TV all of the time. Unless it would be my girlfriend/wife. Then she should let me watch whatever I want whenever I want. That rule only applies to me though.
2007-03-28 22:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.. Love is when someone elses problems become more important then your own.. =P
2007-03-28 23:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree
2007-03-28 22:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋