This woman I use to work with. We got along really well. She even took an extra 30 min break (technically stealing from the company) to chat with me during my lunch. Anyways we talked a lot and I asked her if she wanted to do something she said yes and exchanged numbers. We hung out and then she took a class during the summer. Didn't see much of each other then. Then we started to hang out again. Basically the last time we were hanging out she started opening up to me. She mentioned one thing and then another. On the second thing she mentioned I hurt her feeling. I was trying to make fun of myself and it totally came out wrong. I just wanted to lighten the mood cause we were having a fun time. I tired to contact her later but she never responded. A month later I saw her at a store but I didn't look at her. I figured she would say something first. I didn't want to bother her. Anyways six months later and 2 gfs later I still feel like I should say I'm sorry. Should I e-mail her or call?
2007-03-28 15:34:41 · 24 answers · asked by Vin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It never hurts to say your sorry...give it a try next time you see her or try to call her... you will feel better.
2007-03-28 15:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Never expect the other person to say something first because more than likely they're expecting the same and are going to be hurt when you don't speak up.
You didn't specify exactly what happened or what exactly was said that you tried making fun of and later apologized for. Some things that are said unfortunately can never be erased from the mind of a woman, no matter what you say thereafter. Believe me I know-a husband saying things in hurt=hurt wife forever. (Its how we work-sorry)
That saying, with so much time apparently past I suppose on what you should do now depends on whether you REALLY thought something was there between you in the first place, whether it be friend or otherwise.
Do you know why she stopped working where you work?
If you don't know where she lives (and don't want to come off as a stalker), call her offering to treat her to coffee and apologize for the misunderstand that happened when you last were together. Say that you are deeply sorry this is between you and that you miss the conversations you had. Don't sound needy or overdo it. Leave it light and meaningful and be sure to say who you are clearly with how she can contact you. Good Luck
2007-03-28 15:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by karenramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait wait wait. It sounds to me like you skipped the major climax or point in this story. Did you apologize immediately after you "put your foot in your mouth", or did you wait until you realized she wasn't going to talk to you anymore to apologize? It makes a big difference when the apology came. If you apologized immediatley after and she won't accept it then shame on her. If you waited until she no longer wanted to be in contact with you, then shame on you.
For either of the previous situations, you must call her. As soon as she picks up apologize before even saying hello. Because, if you truly are sincere, the first thing you want her to hear is that you are sincere. E-mail is tacky and so is text messaging and voice mail. Hopefully she will pick up. I would try calling from like a pay phone because the chances of her answering a stranger are much greater than answering you.
Be sweet and yourself. And try not to stick your foot in your mouth again!
2007-03-28 15:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how serious of a thing it was that you said. 6 months is a long time to wait. If you think she is having a hard time in life though or would still be upset over what you said than it may be worth it to to her to hear from a nice guy who may have something good to say.
2007-03-28 15:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend e-mailing her. By e-mailing her you get to express how you feel without any interruptions. Be sure to dwell on the fact that you were trying to lighten up the moment and you never intended to hurt her. I am sure you will get an e-mail reply.
2007-03-28 15:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by loveangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was your mistake then be the man and apologize. Tell her it was all a big misunderstanding. Just let her know that you realize that what you said came out wrong and upset her. Even if she doesn't talk to you afterwards at least you were man enough to apologize. It doesn't matter how it is done as long as it is done. Face to face is usually more impressive!
2007-03-28 15:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a card to her. Get a light comical one that says something like....Hey I think we got off on the wrong foot!! Make her smile. That way you are not forcing her to be uncomfortable by facing her but you are letting her know that you are thinking of her and her problems. Leave it open for a response. Your card laying around her place will make her think of you and your thoughtfulness. Good luck.
2007-03-28 15:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Delani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her call her, it's always better to talk to the person when saying sorry than just writing an email. I know i would like a phone apology rather than an email one
2007-03-28 15:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should leave a card saying sorry and the next day send some roses ( it doesn't have to be a dozen). then leave a letter inviting her for some coffee then say sorry in person ,but change the subject if needed after a while.
2007-03-28 15:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would e-mail her. you do not want to make her feel uncomfortable or out of place if you would call her. she did not want to talk to you before so maybe just e-mailing her and letting her decide whether she wants to talk back to you or not will make the situation a little better. good luck!
2007-03-28 15:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋