2007-03-28 15:30:54 · 18 answers · asked by Looking for help... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Etiquette dictates that no specific message is needed, because the invitation is addressed to the invitee. It is true that anyone who brings kids along, when they are not invited, is just rude and obnoxious. That being said, if you think the people you're inviting are somewhat dense, just write at the bottom, "Adults only, please" or "Grown-ups only, please." As extra insurance, to save yourself from worrying, make sure a friend (or two) spreads the word for you so they get the message loud and clear!!
2007-03-28 16:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by geoxena 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Baby showers were not originally intended for children to be invited. It is something people have started doing by invitation. Only those welcome to attend should be on the invitation, that should be enough to dissuade invitees from bringing their children. Include "mommies only" or "adults only" to get your message accross.
Etiquette states:
Who Should Be Invited to a Baby Shower?
The first step to determining who should be invited to the baby shower is to decide how many people you are going to invite. Will the location of the baby shower limit the number of people who can attend or is the baby shower budget going to affect how many people you will invite. Being a good friend of the mother to be you will probably have a good idea of who will be coming but be sure to have the mom review the list to ensure no one important is left out. Make sure you include all family members, mothers, sisters, etc.
It is also becoming common practice to invite men and children to baby showers. Discuss with the mother to be what type of party she would like. You can make it a "women only" shower, "adults only" shower or similar setting. Be sure to include on the invitations who is invited.
2007-04-01 09:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by jdcar1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want no children at a baby shower? I assume it won't be held at a strip club with freely-flowing liquor, considering the "guest of honor" is pregnant, correct? It's not a bachelorette party with penis-shaped ice cubes and male strippers, is it?
Not sure if you're the one throwing the shower or you're the pregnant one, but if you have a problem having kids around, you might want to reconsider your decision to have kids, because they're going to be around you for the rest of your life...
2007-03-29 03:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are invited to a "Baby" Shower.
And although we would appreciate you bringing an expensive gift, we are so narcisstic, that its all about me me me. Please do not bring your grubby children, because they might take the attention away from me me me. I seem to have confused a baby shower with a Bridal shower, and dont want anything remotely resembling a child at this baby shower.
(Never mind the fact that I am having one of my own, and that someday someone might tell me not to bring this child somewhere. )
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Perhaps this is a "Southern" thing where its just a friends only day? I dont know, any "baby shower" I have ever been to, is a nice get together for ladies, and it isnt a big deal if small children are brought. This type of social gathering, can include children because there shouldnt be any liquor (even for the guests... that would be incredibly crass) served.
2007-03-28 17:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Inform them that you have hired a babysitter to take care of the children brought to the shower. As a result, you are requiring a $100 fee be paid for each child, to pay for the expenses incurred. That should put a stop to it.
2007-03-28 15:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by DAKal 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you kidding? I don't know what kind of baby shower this is but it seems very tacky to me that you wouldn't want their children there when these people are attending your day to welcome YOUR child. I'm guessing this is your first child. Suggestion... let the children come. Cause once your child is here you'll realize how rude it would be for someone to invite you to their baby shower and not your child. It'll be good practice for you anyways...
2007-03-28 22:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Its a little odd that an event intended to celebrate the birth of a child...forbids children....
At least around here, baby showers are small intimate events and moms bring their kids. Its all part of it.
2007-03-29 01:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
By addressing the invitation to the parents only, the message should get through. There is no polite way to specify for someone to not bring their children--if they do bring their children, they are simply being rude.
When your invitees RSVP, gently suggest the children stay home, or suggest child-care if you can finger a certain person for whom it might be a problem.
2007-03-28 15:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carr 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
WTF? its not like you're going out on the town or getting drunk (if u r thats very insensitive to the mom-to-be, if she is doing that then she's just dumb)
She's going to have to get used to kids isnt she?
If you dont want kids then dont invite anyone with them. Simple. And in future when you have ur child, expect to be left out of things too. Maybe you might realise then the cost of finding a babysitter just for some inconsiderate snobs enjoyment.
Also if you have friends with kids, did you stop to consider that the kids might also be excited about the new baby and want to give you their present themselves?
2007-03-28 18:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by zimba 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I agree with UB. There have been plenty of baby shower's were no children are not invited. Its normal. Just have the mommies husband's babysit them.
2007-03-28 16:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋