we have been apart for just over a month but she calls me out of the blue drunk and crying begging me to come back. We have been doing this on and off for to long and even though i ask her not to call she hits my phone up from diffirent numbers. In the past when we have gotten back together it only lasts a week or less. But im weak when it comes to her cause we had a good thing i know im a idiot for keeping on with her but know that im done im just wondering what the hell is wrong with her?
2007-03-28 15:28:08 · 21 answers · asked by Tomp1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is falling back on what is comfortable.
She is lonely and wants a temporary fix.
Stay away. Sounds like its toxic and needs to be avoided at all costs.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-28 15:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she have a co-dependecy personality. though she doesn't want to be with you-she doesnt want to be alone either. you're familiar and she knows you have a certain weakness to her pleas for another chance. You have history as does she to keep continuing the pattern. If you're sick and tired of it--be firm and don't answer the phone, stand your ground and put her on ignore -move on with your life. She will find a replacement placemat-so to speak. You didn't mention love -and without that you have nothing. if she calls from numerous numbers so you'll answer-i'd suggest changing your phone number. she may have problems, but you let her be a problem for you as well. take control and even if you have to change something, even if its an inconvenience, the peace you find for doing so makes it worth the hassle. Good Luck.
2007-03-28 15:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through the same situation with my ex. We have now been apart for 2 yrs. I feel that they know what our weakness is. THEM. We kept going back and forth until mentally i couldn't do it anymore. I didn't want to be the ***** so I just stopped answering my phone etc. Whenever they are low or lonely they think we should pick them up cause we always have. So they continue to call or come around cause we ALWAYS are there for them. They have no regard for what they put us through. Just as long as WE make THEM feel better. I stopped being the door mat and I am so glad I did. Put yourself first. Good Luck.
2007-03-28 15:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Delani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. She probably knows you too had a good thing just like you and she probably wish she still had it back. But when she is sober she knows its best to just not call you, but when she is drunk no thoughts go into the process so she just does whatever she wants. My advice would be to keep rejecting her calls when you can and look for new girls to get your mind off of her.
2007-03-28 15:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by mogi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people break up, its for a reason. Can't be that good if you two broke up. Whats wrong with her: she needs to get a life. You need to move on. Unless you like playing games like that.
Caution:
When two people do that on-again/off-again thing.....keep in mind that anyone she sleeps with while you two are "off" and vice-versa......unless you don't mind that. There are way too many STD's out there to take that chance. Good luck buddy.
Its up to YOU to realize you deserve better.
2007-03-28 15:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with her its just her upset about your breakup+alcohol = little bit of crazy. Call her when shes sober ask her to meet up with you in a public place (no alcohol) maybe for a coffee, and tell her that its over and to please accept it and move on. she should probally be embarressed about the way that shes acted when shes sober and accept it. Also change your phone number.
Good luck
2007-03-28 15:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has you to enable her. I know it's hard, but ask yourself...is THIS the type of relationship you want for the rest of your life? You have to be strong and step off. Let her figure out what's wrong with her. YOU just try to find your own happiness.
2007-03-28 15:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? She still loves you but she has issues and you love her maybe you should try to let her know that she has to get her issue right first. You answered your own question you know how she is and she does not take you seriously therefore change your number, but you wont do it because you still care. Dont answer numbers you don't know for now.
2007-03-28 15:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by tressroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with u. u keep using a girl that is vulnerable, so u take advantage of her. if u really want to end it, the moment u know its her calling hang up the damn phone. its not that hard to do
2007-03-28 15:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make yourself disgusting to her. Fart in her face and laugh, eat with your mouth open, don't shower for a few days and keep having sex. Don't brush your teeth and eat lots of garlic. Anything and everything you can think of that is disgusting but not too obvious. Works every time.
2007-03-28 15:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋