when i first got together with my ex gf she once said " i was too nice" , "that she wasn't use to nice" , i was just being myself, i can't help that there were jerks in her life.
2007-03-28 15:19:43 · 10 answers · asked by Doug T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you were letting her walk all over you? Thats honestly the only thing i can think of as being considered 'too nice'.
2007-03-28 15:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by one_thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your too nice that is usually a sign that someone thinks that you are dishonest or boring. Someone that never has a bad thing to say about anyone else is thought of to not have any defining characteristics, thus they are just dull. Also if you are nice overtly meaning you go out of your way to please everyone at all times, even if you don't like them,you are just being fake. I have been there and the natural response is to go in the extreme opposite direction and just be very mean. All someone needs to do is assess who is important to them and what they feel a need to show them or how they really want to act around them.
2007-03-28 22:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Michael W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you'll be susprised to know that the majority of us girls like the "bad guys" who don't always let us have our way.Girls usually get tired and bored of too much niceness. Most girls want a manly man who knows how to be in control. Girls also lose interest when they feel they have you upperhand, and they know you'll be there to cater to her at the touch of a button. You have to spice things up! I'm not saying to go out there and be a total "asshole" either because thats a turnoff, but you should find the balance in between. And show her who keeps the pants in the relationship! Good luck!
2007-03-28 22:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by CA06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would describe someone as "too nice" when they sacrifice too much of themselves just to please me when it isn't necessary.Good relationships are based on a principal of give and take. You can not always be the giver. You have to give some and take some -- otherwise it won't work. I'll give you an example: Let's say you like to watch football on TV. I don't. You know this. I like to go shopping for purses. Your favorite team is playing Saturday yet you give up the game to take me purse shopping. WRONG!!!!! If I like you - I need to sit through that game without making your life miserable and we can go purse shopping the next day - get it? Give/Take. Good Luck to you the world needs more nice guys -k-
2007-03-28 22:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well back in the day.. i lost a girl cause she said i was "too nice" so be carefull.. some girls say that, that means they want you to be hard to get.. lol like when she calls dont answer the phone everytme.. or when she want to go out tonite say you have plans but maybe later... some girls need that.. and if they are hott they realy need that.. cause if they are real sexy they are tired of always have that guy with them.. its so easy to get guys you know.. all of them want her.. and for her to have the chance to chase you down... it good.. she enjoys the jurney more then the destination.. if you know what i mean.. .. now i want you to realize im not telling you to do this.. cause she may love you just the way you are.. and is glad your 'too nice" but if she ever says "you are too nice" as in a bad thing... instead of the good thing.. do some of those i mentioned.. you'll be fine.. i didnt see the worning signs when i had my supermodel.. she was smoken.. but i figured it out after she went on a 3 day business trip... and i havent seen her since.
2007-03-28 22:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that's okay. I was the same way with my x I use to try and push him away because he was so nice and she just needs time to get use to it that's all.
Good guys are very hard to come across these days and it's cool that your nice and that is you all the way around.
The fact is when your with a guy that isn't so nice then suddenly this really great guy comes out of no where it just seems to hard to believe for a while so just keep being yourself and she'll get use to having such a great guy.
Take care.
2007-03-28 22:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we think what it is to "be yourself" isn't always what it really means to be yourself. Let me explain: what if someone said being extremely sloppy, or never taking a shower or being a generally mean person, or being conceited, or being ambitious to the point of having no respect for other- was what it means to just being yourself. The point is anything too much negatively or positively isn't good. Being nice is fine, being "too nice" is not. Being confident is fine, but being conceited is not. etc.
2007-03-28 22:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by #1bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that some girls are really suspicious of guys in general and are wary when they think a guy is too good to be true. Sometimes they find their comfort zones and realize that the guy is truly great, or they drown in their own paranoia. If you really are a nice guy, then it's her loss and you'll find someone who can stand to be with someone who appreciates them.
2007-03-28 22:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwh she probably did date a couple of jerks and when she had you by her side she didnt realize it because she was prbably never treated with respect and she let go of a good thing
2007-03-28 22:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by blaredangell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me before too. sometimes you just got to be a little bit more of an asshole and stick to your principles, instead of let her walk all over you.
2007-03-28 22:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by grantaloon27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋