My friend has recently been hanging out with my ex who hurt me a lot in the past. My ex used me, lied to me, neglected me, yelled at me, put me down with insults. I dont miss him at all, & I dont want him back.
Although this friend of mine has been good friends with BOTH of us since before we broke up, seeing him hanging out with my ex now hurts me a lot. My friend knows what he did to me and when he first found out he thought my ex was a complete jerk. But recently, it seems like he is accepting my ex as a friend again. I know that they have been friends too for a long time & Its none of my business who he is friends with but It just kind of hurts to see him hanging out with my ex when he knows what he did to me. I sort of tried talking to my friend about it last night but he just told me I have to forgive & forget.
I dont know how to talk to him about how this hurts me. Any suggestions? Should I even talk to him about it at all? Am I just being ridiculous?
2007-03-28 15:16:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe your ex regretted what he did to you and told about it to your friend and that's why your friend told you that you have to forgive and forget, but of course forgiving someone is a process, maybe you just have to see if they are really happy with each other and need to let go of the past and move on. Why does it hurt you to see them together? Do you still love your ex? if not then there's nothing really for you to be hurt about except having this fear that your ex might hurt your friend the way he did to you. If you really feel that you have to tell you friend that your hurting, then be true to yourself and tell your friend about it, make your friend understand why you're hurting, in doing this we can never tell what the consequences will be but you have to take the risk if you really want to tell your friend about what you feel. Good luck and God bless. =)
2007-03-28 15:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by gab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is right about forgetting about your ex but you do not under any circumstances do you ahve to forgive him for what he's done to you. If you friend is hanging out with your ex maybe they are just that FRIENDS!! Myabe your ex has changed (cliche i know) why dont you talk to your ex? maybe your friend will see that you dont hold a grudge.
Good Luck.
2007-03-28 22:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Giraffe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you that much that you make the friend choose between you and the ex, then you should probably not see either of them and make a new set of friends. Not sure what is going on between your friend and your ex but if you cannot forget and move on then put them both out of your life.
2007-03-28 22:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋