what can i do to help these 2 little kids without calling cps?

Question

the mom deals and lets strange men live there and the men always cuss @ the kids (who are 5 and 4) and the kids don't go to school anymore. the 5 yr old told me he tried pot before. i want to call cps but this guy said he'd "send someone to f*** me up" i asked the kids if they wish they could live somewhere else but they said no. the kids say its fun when nobody is "sick" (which i am guessing means drunk). the little kids told me that when they clean the house they get to play video games and that they would rather do that than go to school. they clean up the house after all the house parties i am assuming. but the kids suprisingly love it there. they would rather live there, but i can't help buit feel like they are in danger living there. i want to get them out of there, but like i said, i was threatened. what do i do?? do you think i am just overreacting and i should stay out of it?

Answer 1

I understand your not wanting to go to the Police however I find it quite disturbing that a 5 year old even knows what pot is and he says he has tried it? Oh no, this is unacceptable. Somebody had to have exposed him or her to it. The age these kids are in are quite an impressional ones which may shape their behavior and set the ball rolling down the wrong path. Having this in mind it is the best for the children to have Child Protective Services investigate. You may do this without giving your name. If an adult is found to be giving these children any drugs and or not alllowing them to attend school they must be delt with.

Answer 2

You know some people turn away and do not pay any attention to problems like this. I commend you for taking the time to notice. The boys probably don't mind living there, because their Mom is there. You'd be surprised what children will go through, just to be with their Mother. And they may not know any other way of life. Hum? I am trying to think what you could do, without risking yourself. I guess sometimes you HAVE to risk yourself to save someone else. I would call the CPS, and make them aware that you were threatened. If the Mother sells or deals, she will get caught. Do you live close to them? I would video tape some of the activity if you can. And this sounds really odd, but maybe the Mother needs a good friend. Maybe if you do something really nice for her, she will some how see her bad ways? That's a long shot though. I would let a little time pass, and call the CPS. Good luck, I admire you.

Answer 3

We were in the same situation with some neighbors (except over some abused animals and animal control). We did not want to call, but my father-in-law came over and saw the conditions and he made the call. That way you can swear up and down you did not make the call, and you will not be fibbing. You are not overreacting. Drugs and alcohol will cause these little kids to be physically and possibly sexually assaulted. Even if the parents or their immediate friends don't do it, a new person to the whole party scene could. It's usually a casual aquaintaince that does the damage. CPS will definitely investigate and get those kids out. Just make sure whomever calls on your behalf has their address and a detailed description of what is happening. You and them will be anonymous. Just try and be a friend to this family, and let their kids come to your house to play... they will never guess you were behind it if you treat them like neighbors rather than aversaries and oddballs. Don't act better than them. Oh, and btw, the term "sick" has to do when somebody hasn't been able to obtain their high (specifically they lack heroin), not the other way around.... when they are "sick" they haven't got their fix - often that's when a lot of abuse happens.

Answer 4

Your two choices are to do something or do nothing, what I would do is ask myself what would happen if I made each of those choices. If you choose to become involved, what would happen? IS the threat to be taken seriously or just an empty one? If the five year old was attending a public school, can you start with the school? They are obligated, as mandated reporters, to report something like this to CPS. I am surprised the school isn't already trying to find out why the child is no longer in school. If you do nothing, maybe they will still turn out OK, but I doubt it. One of those men could harm the kids. Or the mother herself could end up hurt or dead, leaving the kids without their mom. I would lean towards getting involved even if the kids say they're OK with living there. What do kids at that age really know about what is best for them? Please contact someone, the principal, teacher, or counselor at the school right away, I think you will feel better for having done something> Best of luck and thanks for caring!

Answer 5

First of all I hope this is a made up story and this is some sort of sick joke. But, in case it isn't, why the heck would you tell someone you are going to call CPS on them? That was your first mistake. Second, stop questioning the kids, leave that to the authorities because if these people say you coached their kids to make up stories, you are dead in the water. At 5 and 4 what school are these kids in? I assume kindergarten and preschool. I would start there. Tell the principal what you suspect is going on and I am sure they will handle it from there. If not, call CPS again and again......don't let them threaten you. If you don't help these kids, in 20 years someone will be writing these same things about their kids.

Answer 6

I think everyone is right you do need to call cps on these people obviously they were not ready to have children and are not yet grown up the cops would help as well with the person making the threats. I do think that the witness protection program is going a bit over board I really do not think you need them. The calls that you make to the cps are confidential they can not give out the name of who called them that is a breech of confidentiality and can get in great trouble. If you call the police you could also tell them you would like to keep annonymous again that information stays confidential. Hope this has helped and good luck on your current problem.
Love and Light

Answer 7

I would think that if you want to get these kids some help w/o actually making the call, or having it look like you did, what you should do is report that there are 2 kids there taht should be in school and aren't. A truant officer would be sent out, or a CPS investigator, and they'd see the true condition of the place. Maybe you could call the school and have them make the call, as someone else suggested.

Answer 8

I know that you are scared and you feel bad but I feel that CPS is better able to help you and these poor kids. It will be better in the end if they grow up knowing what a normal life is. Plus they need to know how to read and write so I would get involved. While your at it call the cops for threating. Tell the cops that you have seen parties and drunks and kids that don't go to school. If you have to lie.. tell them anything to get them over to that house.

Answer 9

Personally, I'd call the police, and tell them your situation. Let them know you are concerned for these children, and ask if there's some way to do a check on the kids without it seeming like someone called it in...I dunno, maybe if you know any of the adult's names in the house, ask them to run a check for warrants, and they can maybe go there and make it seem like they were just doing some kind of a "warrant sweep" or something. That would get the cops in the house, check out what's going on, and if there's something going on at that time, they'd call CPS themselves...viola, you're off the hook! I don't know if this would help, but I wish you good luck....poor kids =(

Answer 10

Oh man, you need to get involved. It's terrible, and i think ALL kids would say they'd rather stay at their home with their mom and siblings-- but those kids are at HUGE risk! Nothing good can come from them staying there. It's only a matter of time before they are seriously hurt, abused, or, God forbid- killed. I don't see a choice. You have to call the cops- you can do it anonymously. If you're worried they'll know/think it was you, then make a point of leaving town when you do it.