my father was never in my life since i was born he doesnt call me or anything he doesnt even know my birthday.. i guess the thing that hurts the most is he has other children and takes care of them but not me when im his real child..im not saying dont take care of them but what about me...Also i try to get over and get the nerve to call him but wheni do he never anwer or calls me back..i have a step dad and he is the best but i still think about my dad and wonder why he does this stuff but i can't get over it..i keep thinkin that something wrong with me.... is there?..how should i get over it???or can i
2007-03-28 15:12:28 · 5 answers · asked by unique_and_Petite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had a dad who treated me the same way. It does hurt. You need to realize that some adult are not that nice. Most of the time, they don't even realize they are hurting their child. I know that does not seem possible, but it's true.
I was an adult myself before my dad paid any attention to me. I was nice to him, but all of my feelings for him were gone!
I had a pretty good step-dad. He was always more like my 'real dad'.
You can't make things different. Be glad you have at least someone who cares about you! ABOVE ALL, KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT...THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!
There are a lot of parents like your dad and that's too bad.
You need a hobby..scrapbooking, photography...take pictures of friends and family, cut out flowers, get ribbon and stickers...make a fun scrapbook. Be sure and put a lot of photo of your step-dad...he will like that!
2007-03-28 15:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the questions that you have about your father are very real and normal, you are hurt by him not taking care of you as he should , getting over that would take time and will be painful because that is not easy , its coming with time , there is one thing that can help you , look at your step-father - he is there for you , taking care of you more than person that cause you being, i know that those words can hurt but this is what it is , there is old statement ,very smart - parent is not the one who give you life but the one who take care of this life which is YOU , you are very lucky person that you have man in your life who is trying to be for you and play father figure, focusing on that would help a lot , if want to talk more about that feel free to contact
2007-03-28 22:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by katrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not you. some dads are real a_holes. there are alot of dads thattreat kids wrongly when they all live in the same house. since you have tried to contact him and he just blows you off, i would say he's not worth wasting your time on him. it seems like you are spending a lot of time thinking about things you may never be able to find the answers to. try to put your time into happy things and move on. hope you have a great life, and take care of the dad you have right there at home
2007-03-28 22:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by bvfarrington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not you. it's his new wife and kids. he will most likely catch helll if he haves any thing to do with you. thats where i have a problem with the step mom, the biotch needs to stay out of it. love your step dad. remember, anby one cabn be a father it takes some one special to be a dad. hope you get over this, i know it hurts. i has nbothing to do with you. it's his lose and your step dads gain.
2007-03-28 22:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every parents love their children unconditionally so don't form an opinion here. I suggest you have a one-on-one chat with him and let him know how you feel.
2007-03-28 22:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋