This guy and I hung out for about two months, but we never once talked about what we were, so I decided to initiate a conversation about it. He then informed me that he still had feelings for another girl, who has just been a tease to him and has led him on for as long as they've been friends, which he realized about two weeks before, and that he thought he should tell me because he wasn't being fair to me. We talked again the next weekend and agreed we were friends, but when he saw me at work the next day (I work with his friends), he said something to all of them, but looked at me and didn't say anything. I talked to his friend, who then talked to him in an effort to salvage our friendship. That night, he IMed me and told me that just because he was somewhat interested in another girl and didn't want a relationship with me, it didn't mean he wasn't interested in me and cared about me as well.
2007-03-28 14:31:18 · 6 answers · asked by thisday.andage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yesterday, on my way to work, I saw him walking and he was on his phone. I assumed he would just say hi and keep walking, but he walked towards me, stopped, ended his phone call, and then talked to me for awhile. Then he said that I should stop by after work. I ended up going to his apartment afterwards, and we hung out, and he never once tried to make a move like he used to, and everything was pretty good. After staying for a half hour, I did give him a hug and kissed him when I left.
I’m really just wondering…what is going through his head? And what should I do about all of this?
I know this was long, but thanks for your time.
2007-03-28 14:31:30 · update #1
Ya know i was just about to reply with something possibly rude...but im takin the high ground tonite, aint gonna say nuffin!
2007-03-28 14:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by kickmeloose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He obviously cares very much about you, but until he can let go of this other crush he has, he'll never be able to have a relationship with you. Maybe try talking to him about this other girl, just casually asking him what he likes about her and why he still likes her. What he needs to realize is that YOU are there for him, while this other girl is not.
What you two need most is time. Time will tell whether he chooses to forget about this other girl or remain just friends with you. Just continue showing him that you care deeply for him. His friends seem willing to help; perhaps you could ask them to tell him how this other girl really doesn't seem interested, but that you DO show interest.
2007-03-28 14:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a situation sort of like this. Nothing ever came out of it, I just ended up getting hurt. Basically, no one ever made me feel as bad about myself as he did. You can take a chance, but I'd advise you to be cautious.
2007-03-28 14:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by kasey1720 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to know what's in his head is to ask him, ask him and talk things out, tell him how you feel
2007-03-28 14:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.... Simple but true.... We cannot tell you what he's thinking... it is all opinion... Ask him... Only then will your question be answered...
2007-03-28 14:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by larua_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋