Why am I so depressed?

Question

I don't feel like myself. I just don't understand it. I turned 18 a couple of days ago and I was really excited that day. I am about to graduate in May and am pretty excited to go to college. Then you have all the rest....my dads shoulders are finally giving out and he will have to find a new job eventually. I don't even have a job myself, and I need one, but with all of the days that I am going to need off I don't even know if I should look for one. I feel like junk...I have a runny nose, ears hurt and I have been cleaning my house non stop for the past 2 days. I am just so tired off all this crap. My parents can hardly pay the bills because of my dads shoulders hurting all the time and I am just stuck in a rut. I want to help my parents out with the bills, but I have to find a job first. My friends aren't even really my friends any more...does anyone have any advice on what I should do?

And it is even harder because I am planning on going to college, but if my parents have a hard time paying the bills as it is where am I going to get the money from...I am just going to be in det forever! :``(

Answer 1

An overwelming amount of stress can cause someone like yourself to feel depressed. You seem to have a lot on your plate right now.
If things get really bad for you, find someone to tlak to by talking to your doctor about it. if you don't do something about it now, it can cause your feelings of being depressed to get worse and worse.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Holy cow... you've got the entire world on your shoulders!! No wonder you're depressed! Ok... here's my advice. It's YOUR turn now. You need to go to college and get your degree. Don't worry about the cost - that's what student loans are for. Most important is that you choose a career path now. Not later, but now. You can always change your career path once you're in the work force, but it helps to have some idea so that you won't waste your college years and you'll stay focused on that job goal. Getting your degree and a good career will be the way you can later help your parents and eventually you're own children!

It's also very common at your age to grow distant from your high school friends. It happens to a lot of people. Especially when you're dealing with family issues like you are. Don't waste your time worrying about. Friends come and go through life. It all works out in the long run as long as you're true to yourself.

So, hang in there kid. Buy yourself some sunglasses, ok? I think your future looks bright. :-)

Answer 3

*HUG* sounds like your in a bit of a pickle! I am assuming you are in America or somewhere outside Australia, so I don't know how helpful anything I say can be because I don't know how your health and other systems work. But if you can get to a free community psychologist, that could be good too. The other thing I know you can access and is free is dnet. it is an Australian website but I have met people from outside Aus on there. There is a forum and chat which I have found to be quite valuable when you just need to talk. the site is
http://www.depressionet.com.au/
About getting a job, maybe try looking for a job that is flexible. It is worth a try but when I was struggling heaps last year I did a pamphlet delivery job, but I found the pay was really bad for the amount of work I did and it took up so much of my time my uni work suffered, so try for like a casual job at a shop, or if your college is away from home try for shops that are chains so you may have the option of transferring from stores rather than getting a new job when you move.

My all time favourite job for getting cash is dishwashing! Not all that many people think of it nor want to try it but it is not that bad, if you can wash dishes at home you can wash dishes in a restaurant. They'll teach you how to use and clean out the commercial dishwashers, though it isn't rocket science!

If you get a dishwashing job, bring solid/thick washing up gloves that fit well (they should, but just in case they don't supply them) because it makes some things less icky. Also watch for naughty chefs who drop their knives in the water (I tell them to put them on the side) because if you can't see them in the water through the suds, grabbing it can be painful (sorry not trying to scare you. Just these things are better to know than learn from experience). The other thing is be slightly OCD, wash it well and you'll be fine (you'd be surprised how many people believe things like using a teatowel to get off what the washing didn't-YUK!!!) It is a commercial scene not at home so they are more likely to want it cleaner than they have their dishes cleaned at home.

I think thats about it. best of luck, I really hope it all works out for you very soon.

BIG HUG :)
& Keep smiling (it is the best medicine for everything)

Answer 4

You sound like you have depression my friend. It magnifies everything and makes your feelings intensified. In addition you have a lot on your own shoulders with your dad being hurt and money being tight. Listen you can always get loans for college, student loans, and based on your family income you may even qualify for grants (which you dont have to pay back). I assume you are still in High School. Go talk to your school guidance counselor, they can put you in touch with someone to talk to about how you feel. If you do have depression there is medicine for it that will make you feel worlds better. Things seem bad right now but remember they are never as bad as they seem or could be. I think you will be ok but you do need support. Good Luck and remember everybody in life struggles we all do. Some of us cry out for help vocally but most of us never say anything so others assume their life is fine and dandy. Your not alone.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are stressed not depressed....You have alot of different emotions going on right now and a pile of confusion to top it off......You are going to be graduating in may? CONGRATS!......if college is going to be a tad bit expensive right now I would just get a job to help ut your parents, alot of good paying jobs are looking for anybody that has a high school diploma, your local job and family services can give you a list of places that are hiring,as far as your father...if he was working before and may not be able to work for quite some time have him contact someone at social security to see about getting disability benefits that will help to keep the bills paid and the food in the cupboards, once your parents get everything straightened out and are okay then start attending your classes at the college of your choice, as far as your cold, a little rest will help you, you sound like all this stress is wearing you down....go in your room and curl up under the covers and call it a night, your mind needs to rest and recouperate......it will work itself out hun....just bear the storm till it subsides! best of luck to you and your family i hope your father improves and you and your family can get things straight.....

Answer 6

Give your body sufficient rest each day
Maintain a reasonable diet. Avoid overeating
Engage in proper and regular exercise, such as brisk walking
If something worries you, talk to a friend about it
Spend more time enjoying your family
Delegate or share household chores
Know your own physical and emotional limitations
Set realistic goals; do not be a perfectionist
Be organized; have a balanced, reasonable schedule
Cultivate Christian qualities such as mildness and patience
Set aside some time for yourself

Answer 7

Don't worry. I came across this real life story in Singapore.

Olivia Lum is the CEO of Hyflux company. Her background is quite sad. Adopted by a old lady in Malaysia whom she called her grandma. She came to Singapore at the age of 16 and was rejected by 10 schools before being accepted. She has to work to pay her school fees and lodging. Then her grandma pass away while she is college. This was a great blow to her. She was depressed. Managed to pick herself up and make it through the university. Now she is the CEO of a listed company.

Her story inspired me a lot. At least we have parents. At least we had a home to go back to when we are in trouble. If she can make it, why can't you and me do it?

Answer 8

just do something positive on one thing thats bothering you.. I know that sounds simple , but take action and it will give you the feeling that you do have some control. just one act can take that feeling away. I wish youthe best. Hang in there and keep a sense of humor. Dont take life to seriously.

Answer 9

Just take it one day at a time and try to be positive by taking action in whatever way you can to help out in any way. many things can depress people and obviously the things you mentioned depress you and i am sure if i were in your shoes i would be depressed too, but of course i would take action to relieve the stress and depression and NOT mull over the situation all of the time.

Answer 10

Stress can do that and this is a stressful time for you. Read this site to relax you and help you feel more peaceful. Remember "Even your darkest hour, I do not abandon you."

http://www.phifoundation.org/enlightenment.html