At first I felt inadiquit because my girlfriend had been with 5 other guys before me and i was still a virgin. It always bugged me that she was with other guys and now that i don't feel inadiquit any more because... well i don't mean to brag but... lets just say that she is done way before me in bed. but it still bugs me that she was with other guys and one i perticular where she was in an abusive realationship i just feel like busting his f*****g brains in. Is this normal or am i over-jelouse? We have been going out for 6 months and i also wonder if i will ever get over this?
2007-03-28 14:21:38 · 19 answers · asked by dan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Allow me to answer your question this way sonny....ummmm did these 5 other guys break it?...if not, if it still works fine, GET OVER IT NOW~!!!
2007-03-28 14:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by kickmeloose 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't explode but it is normal to want justice. Just try to get over it because there is nothing that is going to change the abuse. At least your protective and you really care for you girlfriend to what I can see. About the virgin thing don't worry about it I am sure there is a lot of guys in the same situation. It's totally normal. Also if it's such a problem talk it out with your girlfriend she is starting to know you well and what's best for you. Just my opinion no offense.
2007-03-28 21:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Successor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may take time, but I would say yes, you will. Sometimes it's hard. Have you tried talking to her about it???
Also, I know this sounds bad, but maybe you should watch a porn and take some "cues" from it. There are also books out there that may be able to help you feel more adaquit. (Sorry about the spelling!) I've learned after being married for almost 4 years, it never hurts to try something new. And maybe it will be something new for her.
Hope this helps a little.
2007-03-28 21:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by angel_vixn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how many times a day do you look at other women?? she feels the same way thats why she went out with other men. Just understand that you both find other people good looking but right now you are with each other because you like each other more then just looks. who cares if she is better in bed then you are. stop all that stupid testosterone. because quite frankly girls really don't care about you showing off to impress them. just be yourself and forget all the others she was with. and you'll be fine if you want to be.
2007-03-28 21:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by OpposumGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ew, five guys? And you were a virgin? I mean, you may be in love - but I hope you're using protection. And the fact that she's "done" before you should be a hint that her.. area down there is "done" as well. Well, it seems like you're happy and don't have a problem with it besides the ex thing but he's out the picture it seems so who cares? Where's the question in this whole matter?
2007-03-28 21:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to put spirituality into it, but look mate what you are feeling is entirely normal, if you dont I would think you otherwise. Why ? Becasue its wired in our spiritual DNA and our psyche that we were all meant to be connected mind body soul and sex with only one other. Dont want to sound too crude, but there is only one "key" for one "hole". And when otehrs have entered before its no longer sacred. Anyhow, get over it. For what matters is the affairs of the heart. Is she pure to you ? Has she closed the door to the others ? Is this relationship going further ? Marriage ? Which is the union of 2 souls. Man and his wife. Soul mate ! with sex, the physical medium the ultimate signature of the spirtual union. If you have not gotten over it in this manner. Deal with it, confront it. For you do not want "others" influencing your God given life.
2007-03-28 21:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First things first, I don't encourage youngsters to engage in sex, but if you do please please please use protection. Ok - enough of that.
You can take solace in knowing you are not the first person to express this sentiment. I would encourage you to think about where these feelings of inadequacy are stemming from. Are they really feelings about yourself rather than your actually feelings about your girl? If it's about your skill level, get some books and learn. Explore with each other - it's not a competition, but a wonderful way to share physical intimacy. Enjoy the fact that she has some experience and that she is sharing that with you. Live in the present and let go of her past. She is with you stud! Trust me - enjoy this moment with her.
2007-03-28 21:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a chill pill bill, i do agree with you on wanting to beat any guy that would hit a woman. any who, she is with you now, not them. the fact that the two of you have been together for 6 months should mean something to you
2007-03-28 21:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by j-blueman07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To a degree these are normal emotions but you must keep in mind this is her past...not the present. You were not there so you must rise above and be with her now and not look at the past
2007-03-28 21:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by ideame 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i think u will get over it, but let me tell u, it really doesnt matter if she has more experience, is that all that matters? and the guy that abused her or something doesnt matter now, wat matters is that u should take her of her now and not do the same that guy did, and she will love u for that, not cuz u r "unexperienced", well good luck with everything!
besides ur lucky, u will have good sex with her! :)
2007-03-28 21:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋