Should I break up with my boyfriend? I asked him if he liked another woman, he immediately knew what I meant?

Question

by "liked" and said No. He then, said, "but you know who gets my attention is..." He explained that he doesn't "like" her either. He just thinks she's cute and "notices" her. It bothered me but no big deal. You can like someone else to a certain extent and not intend to cheat or leave. But I saw him talking to her in karate class today in the side room with a fellow student. Then as they came over to the main dojo, she pretended to kick him. Oh how cute! Blech...It wouldn't be much of an issue if he hadn't mentioned her before (he's a bit of a flirt in general) and she's getting a divorce, so she'll be free soon.

I was mad and barely spoke to him during class. For this and other reasons (some out of his control), I want to break up. But am I overreacting?

Answer 1

Well, something's is really off.

I mean you got the information out of him that you need at this point. Without doing anything dramatic, you might just want to distance yourself a little bit. Let HIM wonder what you're up to.

It might be nothing. Really. But the bottomline is that the guy should be with you because he really wants to be with you. And is not thinking of someone else while he's kissing you.

Follow your gut feeling. It's never wrong, that little voice inside that says to you: "_________________." Only you know what it's saying right now. Listen to it!

Answer 2

He was honest with you. All other women don't vanish or cease to be attractive because you like him.

He talked to her. And the problem is? A third person present as well....hardly conducive to chatting someone up.

She pretended to kick him. She did it, not him. Is there a chance she is vying for his attention? Or, as a future divorcee she might be honing her own flirting skills.

Sounds like you are making your bf a victim.

Answer 3

It sounds like you don't trust him in the least. If you think a little harmless flirting means he is off to her house for the night. Then maybe it is you who has the problem and yes if you cant trust him then you should not be with him. It is only human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. My husband and I always flirt with other people and we don't think it means anything more then that Flirting!