PLEASE ANSWER!!! Why does my EX still contact me....?

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PLEASE ANSWER!!! Why does my EX contact me.....?
OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt badso a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Sincethen I have said hi to him 2 on msn.Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to. What is he doing?

He's 26 & next year he's moving out of his parents & moving in w/ a friend. He also is getting his MBA & he just got a very good job. Meanwhile, I'm still in university & living w/ my parents. Our life paths are so diff. so why does he continue talking to me, how does this benefit him?

Answer 1

Because you still keep responding to him.

With guys, it's all about the EGO. He cannot deal with the fact that he made a mistake in letting you go, so he is just trying to ease his conscience by getting you to jump everytime he snaps his fingers.

You have nothing in common with him, your life plans are different and you've already mentioned what a jerk he is.

He is old news and not worth your time anymore. My advice to you is move on and find someone who deserves you because it is not him.

Answer 2

Many men, are absent minded, especially when they have a lot going on...which he does!They are real sharp when it comes to their school& work, but when it comes to a social life, well...they don't have a clue!!! They need help...bless them.

It sounds to me that in his own 'foggy' way he is fond of you. You pop through his fog every now and then and he calls THEN, he gets busy with something, tests, job related things, and he 'forgets'...not out of meaness, but overwork.

I know this sounds wild, but I know...my guy...we're now married did the SAME THING! It was infuriating! He was getting his MBA, as well.

When we were "dating" (which was never 'normal'), I knew that I had to have my own life and interest. I went out with friends and had fun. He would call and if I was busy, I would tell him how nice it was to hear from him, but "How about next Friday? I was sincere...no game playing...I actually had plans! I hated doing this, but I didn't want to feel desparate either!

After awhile, he realized that he had better 'wake up' and be a little more conscious. I guess that's what happened because he became more attentive. I was floored when he proposed! Now, he's the greatest...still absent minded...I have to pin reminder notes to his shirt...well, almost!

You probably need to continue dating and include him when possible. These guys who live in a fog are hard to tie down!

Don't cut him out...he is probably needing encouragement.

P.S. Getting and MBA, moving, starting a new job...Hey! This guy has a lot on his plate!!!! You might consider this in whatever decision you make. He sounds like "quite a catch"...don't run away too soon!

Answer 3

A lot of people do that same thing you are describing...it's just too make themselves feel good...knowing you don't hate him makes him feel like you still have some kind of feelings for him...and getting together with you is like proof that he still got game...even though you guys aren't dating he'll think of it as a date...also he might just want to have you as a friend because maybe he likes having girls as friends...

Answer 4

Girl, those actions means that he's still not over you and have feelings. Or that he might be a little lonely. You pick your choice. He could also want to be friends with you. Depends on him. Try to straighten things out. Don't feel guilty, if you don't like him more than a friend, tell him.

Answer 5

I can only think of one reason why he'd only want to see you "every once in a while" and that would be cause he's seeing someone else and he wants to make them jealous. You should find out why he broke up with you in the first place, why he only wants to go out with you "every once in a while" and if he's seeing someone else.

Answer 6

hes 26 and prolly thinks cuz your older now, you might give it up. Your young and cant see this and will probably deny it. He doesnt want strings attached, just his cake and to eat it too. just nicely say take a hike asshole! in the end it will be better and less hurtfull

Answer 7

Could be he's realised he wants to pursue a relationship with you. He's waiting for you to be older to maybe take the relationship the next step. Don't quite know what to say. You really need to ask him, or he could really start messing with your head.

Answer 8

Ask him the same question. Why is he talking to you, and what is he doing? If he hasn't asked you out, he's not interested enough. I'd get him off your messenger and go on with your life.

Answer 9

My guess is you are a conquest to him. He wants to keep you around to see if your views change so he can try to get into your pants. Guys aren't very smart when it comes to woman. Don't reply to him or anything. Leave him hanging. See what he does.

Answer 10

well you said hi to him again so u cant complain. here we go again with the whole " every once ina while " i think you have OCD and need to see a psychiatrist about your obsesseoin with this guy. sorry if thats rude!!