I am currently married to my bf of 4 years. I admitted that we got married becos of i'm pregnant but we both loves each other. Even before i'm pregnant, we have the plan to get married but it just not that soon. Now we have been settled for 7 mths and our baby gonna be born in another week time. The problem now is most of my relatives still cannot accept the fact that i'm pregnant before married. They said we should financially capable before we built up a family. Me n my husband are now working n we are afford to pay for all the expenses and are mentally and physically prepared for our baby. I hate being look down by my relatives. How to deal with my relatives without showing any disrespect. They always talked about this issue in front of me. I never asked for any help from them but why they have to take care of my business. We will responsible for the things we've done. I can't close my ears when they talked bout this and it makes me angry.
2007-03-28 13:57:35 · 7 answers · asked by mida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They even said that i must not go back to my parent's house that often since i'm married and i should stay all the time in my in-laws' house. Why can't they just shut their mouth. I know i couldn't control what other ppls said but i just hate to hear about all this.
2007-03-28 14:13:52 · update #1
no but as long as you guys see each other after u have it so he sees his m&d marriage after you have him then split up is better
2007-03-28 15:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your family about the way they are treating you. Right now me and my finacee are thinking that I may be pregnant and we are both freshman in college. I know that if I am some of my family will look down on us but most of them will except it. I would tell your family that if they want to be part of yours and the baby's life they need to accept what is going on. Tell them that you are having this baby whether they like or not. And no I do NOT think you are wrong for getting pregnant before marriage. MOST people have sex before getting married and they don't get pregnant. Just b/c they are not "caught" in the act doesn't mean they can look down on you. I know a few ppl that actually had abortions to cover up their "mistake" before marriage. Don't let anyone make you believe that you are less of a person b/c you actually got pregnant. Be proud that you are able to confront the disapprove of your family whether than taking the easy way out. Congrats hope EVERYTHING works out for you guys and be strong.
2007-03-28 14:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by luv_veggies012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this, "Having a late term abortion is not an option. And the child that I am carrying will be a member of this family regardless of the circumstances surrounding his conception. For that reason, I don't want to hear any more remarks about how disappointed you are in me for being pregnant before I was married." After that, refuse to discuss the issue again and don't allow anyone else to bring it up.
2007-03-28 14:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My PERSONAL belief is that you should be married first however we all make mistakes.It happened and you can't change it. It's nice that you want to be respectful but you have the right so speak up. (don't scream, curse) You can tell them there is nothing you can do to change the past and you are both working hard and doing your best then if possible let it go. Even if you have to walk away or change the subject. Do your very best for your new little family and don't let other's opinions of you cause you to feel bad about yourself. None of us are perfect !
2007-03-28 14:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by bobbi123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents and family are going to have to accept this new bundle of joy that is being brought into this world even though they might now have agreed wiht the fact that you were not married when you got pregos this baby has done nothing wrong and deserves love from all family members.
you both are taking resposability in being able to provide for the child material wise and im sure you both have over flowing amount of love for this baby so no worries.
2007-03-28 16:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by cdncowgirl78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! well first i wanna say it is not a MISTAKE that you got pregnant...IF you guys love each other and you guys planned to get married and all that stuff soooooo...jus think that it was going to happen and it did. your family may not be ready for it...but you guys are, and that's all the kid needs. As far as your concern is with your family, be bold, be brave, and be confident to face everyone....coz you need to stand up for your love and your child....and the sooner you do it, the more time they will have to get the idea. and if they dont accept it then you dont need to bother either...jus pay attention to the family that you are starting...and remember to always have faith that everything happens for the best! dont worry too much....jus play it cool....and enjoy the NEW BABY....the miracle of your love....gud luck!
2007-03-28 15:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting Pregnant before marrying is very wrong because it is a very bad sin. I read it from the bible and heard it in the church.
2007-03-28 14:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋