I seriously feel like I am having a nervous breakdown... My husband is in Iraq, I have two babies to take care of, and I feel like crying all the time. Please help.
2007-03-28 13:51:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Email me through my profile. I'm a stay at home mom with a 2 year old, and my husband is also in the military. He was gone for half of our marriage and when my son was 9months until he was 15months. He missed 2 Christmases, both of our anniversaries, my son's first birthday and tons of firsts. It's really really hard, I know. Being stuck far away from family and friends, and having to go it alone with 2 children and without a husband is HARD. That's why they have the saying, "The worst job in the military is being a military wife." Please, email me and we'll talk.
2007-03-28 13:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a first time mom with a 9 month old son. At times, it is definitely more stressful than I had imagined. Sometimes, you just have to put the baby in the crib and walk away for a minute. It doesn't hurt to let them cry a little. Just try to stay calm and don't feel guilty. I feel for you. My husband went to Iraq too, but that was before we had a baby. It was so hard then, I can't imagine what it would be like now. Just hang in there. If there's anyone at all who can watch them just for a while to give you a break...that would help a lot! Just remember that you're not alone!
2007-03-28 20:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Megan O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a stay at home mom of two little ones, but have no idea how it would be to have my husband gone. I still feel like I am going crazy though sometimes. Check the internet for local playgroups in your area. They are a good way to get out of the house and meet other moms. Also, alot of churches has a mom's morning out programs. Some are free and some are not. If you want to vent just email me. My husband is gone alot so I am on my copmuter alot! Take Care and Good Luck!
2007-03-28 21:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Blair S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry whenever you need to. When you are crying, try to count your blessings. Think of the good and how you are blessed. It gets hard do to that I know, but it helps. Things can always be worse. Do you have 2 good legs to take your babies on a walk? Do you have money coming in to pay the bills? ( so you will not be homeless?) Do you have a man that you love and loves you back? Do you have a good dad for your kids? Think of those good things.. while you are crying.. crying is ok. It is a release. You are not having a nervous breakdown. You are just in a stressful time in your life. Even when things are really bad.. take some time to cry and smell the roses. And always remember, things could always be worse than they are...
2007-03-28 21:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All i recommend is cry and then find some ME time. I know you have to have a neighbor, your mom, someone you trust to take care of the kids while you take a jog, a walk, a bath, dinner with a girlfriend. If you don't find time for yourself you can't take care of anyone else. And when you find a way to get that time, don't feel guilty. Just think out of 24 hrs your asking for hopefully 1 a day by yourself. And excersize really helps with stess, i know it might sound like no fun and a lot of work. But good things don't come easy and easy things are not good. And organization helps alot to, I don't know what your schedule looks like but, when everything you have to do is written down you have a better visual as to where you can find ME time. I really hope you find a way to relax and find who you are again.
2007-03-28 21:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Marianita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry! I wish I could tell you. I tend to scream a lot and grit my teeth. See if you can find a reliable babysitter to watch the kids even if for just one hour for you to take a walk or run to the store by yourself. Get in touch with any family you have and ask for some help.
2 children to take care of while probably worried about your husband has got to be tough. Do you live near a military base? I know the air force base near me has organized groups for spouses of family that are deployed. They may have some resources for you, support groups, etc.
Hang in there!!!
2007-03-28 21:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh gosh, Im sorry. here I am also heading for a breakdown and my husband is only gone this one week. Something I do and it ends up making me laugh and my kids love it is get together in a circle and scream and say things that upset you. Ex. kids might say "i hate time out, I hate broccoli". My grief counselor gave me the idea (I lost a newborn so thats why she's here).If you wanna vent, email me but only if I can vent right back!
2007-03-28 20:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a single father, and if you get friends and family to help support you and talk to you that helps with me. Join a military family support group where you can meet people with similar problems that can help each other.
Your husband will return so you have hope at the end of this long wait for him , many people don`t have even that. Hang in there and be strong as your whole family must to succeed.
2007-03-28 20:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Heads up! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
See http://www.nmha.org and practice for 20 mins daily, and when needed, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy" & check out: Dr. Marianne Ross: "BREATHING", "STRESS STOPPERS". Or gaze at a burning candle in a quiet, darkened room. Tai Chi & yoga suit some. Avoid the news: if something happens there; you will only fear the worst. Exercise daily, eat healthily, and get out regularly. Valerian root, or nettle tea may help.
2007-03-28 21:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to stay with your babies for a couple of hours a day. Women love holding babies. Then you can do meditation or yoga. See this site and see info on bottom on bringing up infants.
http://www.phifoundation.org/enlightenment.html
2007-03-28 21:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋