How can a girl overcome a rape experience?

Answer 1

I was raped.

I'm still not over it, and honestly I don't think I will ever be the person I was before it happened.

Its taken me a lot of talking, writing, working out, and crying to get to the point where I am now.

I will always be afraid, I sleep with a night light and my dog, but support from my family and people that care for me has kept me going.

I am now stronger than I ever have been, but so much has changed. Take the bad experience and choose to learn from it, not make the same mistakes, trust your gut, and rise above it. That will make you immortal.

Reach out to someone if they have been raped. Tell them "I will always be here no matter the time if you EVER need any thing for any reason. Don't forget that I love you no matter what happens."

Counseling is helpful to some people, and group counseling can be interesting as well.

Different things for different people apply, so try a variety of things.


Good luck, sweetheart. I know it is hard, for you or whoever.

Answer 2

Assuming it is you that became victim to rape, I can admire you for seeking ways to better adjust to a life lasting memory that has now become part of your life.

Yes, it is life lasting, sad to say, and you will see it over and over again for the rest of your life. You won't feel the physical pain, no, but emotional pain is just as discomforting., if not worse.

Some girls can handle it and others cannot while yet each will always remember...some more vividly than others. You cannot honestly forgive anyone that has violated your body so terribly. That is a myth that proves nothing because the violent act is never forgotten. If able at all, don't allow yourself to dwell on thoughts of he whom violated you When the thought comes forward force yourself to think of something more pleasant. Don't allow him to keep raping you mentally.

The most difficult concern you have to deal with is how you respond to others around you and especially the boy you care most for right now and those that will follow until a time of marriage when a sexual experience can make or break a marriage of real love.

For those around you...never elaborate should they ask, and simply reply that it was a horrible experience and you are now learning how to deal with it. You surely have a best friend whose shoulder you share with even the most intimate things of your life and she should be your partner of confidence, not your entire social circle.

For the boyfriends in your life...beware...! Some can be real sickos and want a detail by detail description of the incident. That is not love and compassion, that is just plain sick !

For the nicer guys in your life, they will be compassionate and understanding with not prying intensively. With a long term relationship you can expect your boyfriend to have desires for a closer and more intimate relationship. Establish your own limits and remain in control. Do not rush into darkness and stumble. Take your time and set your own pace. A real friend will not be demanding or deliver an ultimatum to you.

No doubt this will be the most difficult time of your life and will be the most challenging. Can you close your eyes when a boy touches you and not be reminded of the one that violated you ? Can you have sexual fantasies of someone you love and not be interrrupted with thoughts of being violated ? Can you marry and serve as a loving mate to fulfill your destiny of love and marriage and not be plagued with the terror once known ?

These are the challenges ahead you must face and must overcome. It isn't easy for you now and won't be any easier in the future if you don't make up your mind and convince yourself it was just an evil act and it is in the past. You must promise yourself it will not ruin your life but will make yourself a better person for being able and strong enough to overcome it.

There is no other way and no other one that can do it for you. As you are concerned and trying now, I am confident you will win over and lead yourself into a wonderful and loving experience with not allowing this violation to prove otherwise.

Answer 3

First of all, hopefully they catch the rapist so you never have to be bothered by this act again. Next, you could try working out at the gym or doing some kind of exercise to help get this off your mind so you can move on in life.
Rape is a crime similar to invasion of privacy- it's sick and unethical and it demoralizes people and libels their reputations! Hopefully you can overcome your dilemma if this has happened to you. Just imagine if you were raped every day and people told you to just forget about it and move on while someone or a group of people continued to rape you and did something rotten to you every single day!!

Answer 4

I was raped when I was very young, and seeking therapy is the only way to move on. I'm not telling you it is going to be easy, it is so hard that sometimes I wished I was dead. I have learned to live with it, it still creates interesting problems for me. I am in a relationship, and it hasn't been easy for me to be intimate with my partner. Still, I am lucky enough to have a wonderful guy that understand me and is willing to help me all the way.

You need to forgive yourself, yes I meant yourself. Even if you don't admit it, deep down you know that you blame yourself for the rape. Trust me it wasn't your fault, no matter what the circumstances. If you want to talk more about this just go to my profile and email me, I will do my best to help in any way I can.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Lots of time, patience, and compassion from herself and her family and friends. Feeling safe is the most important thing, so the girl can do the things that make her feel safe and protected: keeping friends and family around her, etc. However, every day, she should do something, no matter how small, to stretch her comfort zone. Eventually, she'll become comfortable with going out alone, dating, and even having sex again.

I know the following is controversial, but she should consider forgiving her rapist. Forgiveness isn't for him, it's for her. Through forgiveness, she'll be able to let go of the resentment, fear and bitterness that could inhibit her future. All in good time though. "I know that I have not yet reached that goal, but there is one thing I always do. Forgetting the past and straining toward what is ahead, I keep trying to reach the goal and get the prize for which God has called me through Christ to the life above" Philipians 3:13-14.

She could also consider filing charges, if she hasn't already done so. It could bring her closure, and could keep him from doing it to another girl.

God bless you. You're in my prayers.

Answer 6

Therapy. And group therapy (try to find one with girls around your own age). I have a friend who never bothered to go to any kind of help, just kept it all inside of her and here it is 40 years later and she's so paranoid that she calls the police if a man talks to her, drops all of her friends periodically because she "thinks" they are all saying bad things behind her back, sleeps with her eyes partially open, and some other not-too-healthy things. I also have a niece who was attacked in France by a group of men who started out going to therapy but after only a few sessions she decided she didn't need it, but she's scared of a lot of things, no longer trusts her judgment, is getting involved with a guy who she thinks wants to protect her but appears to everyone else that he wants to control her. Go in for therapy so you can air all your fears and anger and sadnesses and everything else, where you can listen to other girls who have gone through something similiar so you know you aren't alone and are not the only one (and it wasn't your fault).

Answer 7

Talk to someone. A friend, coucelor, Even parents. I was raped in college and only told my room mate. I didn't report the guy cause I was scared. Only months later I told my parents. Now, I can openly talk about it. I learned from my mistake of keeping quiet and now want to help other girls realize that they are not alone.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Have a close understanding friend to lean on. Also it is important for you to forgive your attacker... not because they deserve it, but to set yourself free from the pain and hatred that can hold you in chains if you don't let it go. Ask the Lord for strength in this area and also for healing... He will help you.

Answer 10

there must be a help group ask at the hospital or police library i am sure there is somthing just keep asking good luck