I am 17. my girlfriend is 15, 16 in 4 months. I live about 45 minutes away from her. I have no car, so i have to pay gas money to get there and back. I can usually only see her on weekends, because of work and the long trip. her dad hates me, and he has never even met me. he keeps trying to force another guy on her, because he likes that guys mom. since her dad has said i cant date her, i can only even see her at church on saturday and sunday. I love her, and she feels the same. this is just very hard to deal with, physically and mentally. and socially. should i continue to give up all of my free time to see her just a little bit, even though im not sure if there will ever be a light at the end of the tunnel. if her dad absolutely wont let her see me until she is 18, i will hopefully be in college by then, because i will be 19 or 20. older, more mature people have told me i just have to hang in there. the typical high school through 23 year old guy says forget it. sorry i was so long.
2007-03-28 13:39:05 · 6 answers · asked by Luke B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as i said, her dad hates me because she likes me, but he wants her to be with another guy so he can hook up with that guys mom. i want to talk to him, but everyone that knows him says that it will do no good. I do love her, but i only get to see her during church, and i am giving up what life i have aside from school and work to see her. i say that there may be no light because I dont know if she will even still want to be with me after over 2 years. im sure that she will decide that she needs to be with someone that she can see more often. the no light thing didnt mean that i didnt think that i would "get some ***" she says she cries all the time when something reminds her of me, because she misses me so much. and as i said, by the time she can date me (unless her dad changes his mind) i will probably be in college. I really dont know what to do. i do love her, and i want to hang in there with everything i have, but i think i may just end up hurting her. i appreciate your insight.
2007-03-28 14:28:01 · update #1
also, the guy that her dad makes her be around all the time, cant keep his hands to himself. she lets him know that she doesnt like him, but he just keeps trying to touch her. she doesnt want me to beat him up because he has cleft feet or something. i tried to respect her wishes, but i am about to fight him regaurdless. she always complains about him touching her, and yesterday my sister even saw it. she said he kept hugging her, and he would try to hold her hand but she would cross her arms, and he would try to sit next to her, and she would move away. do you think i should beat him up? I think that i should tell him to stay away from her, then if he doesnt, beat him up, but the problem is she tries to keep us separated as much as possible. i have never seen him. she doesnt want me to hurt him, and i fear that if i talk to him once and then he keeps it up, she will try even harder to keep me away from him. this is a really messed up situation. please give me some help.
2007-03-28 14:35:06 · update #2
I say go date some other girls and when she's 18 if you're both single it will all work out in the end. Honestly...too much drama...it's like you both are addicted to suffering...change that up and have some fun.
2007-04-05 12:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say that you truly love this girl, then you should wait for her. Its most likely that you will lose her, and never find another one like her if you break it off. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with her dad? Maybe you should try that. Why does he hate so much if he has never met you before??
Just hang in there. BUT if you have any doubts about there not being "any light at the end of the tunnel" , then you obviously don't love this girl as much as you say you do.
You have to consider how much you love her. If you think that she's worth seeing for a small time frame, then you should wait. But if you have ANY doubts about this not working out, then you should just end it with her because your just wasting her time, and wasting your time.
Consider whether or not you REALLY love her, then you can make a worthy decision.
2007-03-28 13:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by NoNameNoFace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One more year and you'll be an adult and she'll still be a minor. You're treading on dangerous ground at your age because of that fact. My advice is to wait and see what happens. Her Dad reacts to you negatively because he was once a 17 year old male and understands what is one your mind. If his daughter was 17 and your were 19, I don't think he would be as concerned. As it stands now, I don't blame him for wanting you to stay away. I'm lucky, I only had one son. However, if I was in his shoes, I'd harbor a similar resentment toward you.
2007-04-05 13:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you should do is wait for her when she's 18 and date her, but if she has a boyfriend at the time she's 18 then try to find a girl that will steal your heart as she did. Good Luck dude!!!
2007-04-05 13:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by FireStone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way too much drama going for me....look date other girls for now...and when she is of age then you can pick it up where you left off...respect her fathers wishes...
he knows whats best for his own daughter, he is just being over protective.
2007-04-05 07:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the relationship cant go ne where if her dad doesn't like u so u might wanna leave that alone...sorry
2007-04-05 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pr!nc355 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋