I have been together with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He has been asking me for sex, but I told him I wasn't ready. So he told me that he would wait until I am ready but at the same time he hopes it'd come asap. Lately, he is pushing me to get ready and said he has been too nice to me not to push and I abuse his niceness. He said every couple out there is having sex in a daily basis and he just wants to be in a normal relationship. He told me he's running out of patience. And he'll leave me or cheat on me if he runs out of patience one day. At this moment, I am not ready for sex. And he asked me when I will be ready. I don't even know when. What should I do?
2007-03-28 13:37:32 · 18 answers · asked by MonicaS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No because he wont wait until your ready, and also because he is threathing you by saying he is going to cheat on you or leave you
2007-03-28 13:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by ladyboobie_615 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only is he not being patient, but he's a liar as well. He told you that he would wait until you were ready. Just because you aren't ready when he thinks you should be ready he's going to treat you like this?
Tell him that if that's how he feels, he can hit the road. You are a quality person who isn't willing to just give yourself away to whoever asks you for it. You know that you are worth more than just sex. If he can't appreciate that then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Don't let him be so manipulative or nasty with you. He's taking advantage of you. You deserve better than that and you will find someone who will treat you right.
Good Luck!
2007-03-28 20:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on until you are ready. Not everyone in a normal relationship has sex on a daily basis. Some people actually wait until they are married. The thing about having sex is sometimes you end up losing part of yourself to that person, and if it doesn't work out, you have to work with getting back that piece of yourself, getting back to normal. Take your time, and if he really loves and respects you, he will cool his heels.
2007-03-28 20:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by momo5j7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.Just for a few minutes lets pretend you have HAD sex with him.he is now bragging to his friends, and now its been 3 weeks and he hasnt called you in 3 days, he has been talking to this hot girl.You just missed your period because the condom broke(they do have a failure rate and it just happened to fail on you).You call him and tell him you think you might be pregnant and he tells you he isnt ready for a baby (just like you werent ready for sex), what should he do?
Tell him ALL couples arent having sex before theyre married some women are still virgins when they marry, and you intend to be one of them and if he cant wait take off, youre free to go youll find someone who is MAN enough and loves you ENOUGH to wait.Youll see right quick what he is REALLY after.Im betting its just sex.
2007-03-28 20:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its your choice lossing yoor virginity can be a hard disision. If he loved you he will wait for you. If he is a jerk he will only want to stay with for sex which is wrong. It is your option and don't push your descisoon just because of your boyfriend he is a creep maybe you should make a list of the good and bad things about him balanced it out he might be the wrong guy and maybe you should break up with him before he breaks your heart. be honest to yourself do you really want to have sex if no then dont no matter what he says
Good Luck :)
2007-03-28 20:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a good guy. But the urge to have sex is a strong one, especially for men. If you're not ready maybe you should break it off, don't force yourself to do something you're not ready to. But don't be mad at him either, he's being absolutely honest with you. You should find more sexually compatible matches. Neither of you are wrong.
2007-03-28 20:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Alice M. Ayres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two options here
break up with him
if you REALLY like him, get firm say NO i am not ready and if you want to cheat or leave me go ahead its your loss and you'd be making a stupid mistake if you really love you would know to just let me get ready take some time as a virgin (if you are, sounds like it)
2007-03-28 20:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not sure when you will be ready and if he can't handle it find a guy that is worthy of you and will respect your decision. I commend you on staying a virgin, I wish I had waited.
2007-03-28 20:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a bj....
everyone has to compromise... 1.5 years together is a long time. a lot of people get married after being together for that long. maybe the reason you aren't ready is that he's not the right man for you.
2007-03-28 20:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by jeff85 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a better guy. All that he wants to do is get in your pants and that is not right. You need a guy that repects you more. He is a jerk. Burn any thing he gave you. You dervere way better than him.
Hugs and Kisses
(find someone that loves you)
2007-03-28 20:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by So... Kiss Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋