Sum95- found out that he slept with his "ex" in 94. She has a 3 month old baby who she said is my bfriend's. I believe that it was one night and that the baby isn't his.
95-Sum02 bfriends mother is taking care of baby and/or really involved in baby's life. Baby starts to call my boyfriend daddy. He refuses to take a paternity test because he doesn't want to break his mom's heart. We fight constantly over him handling the situation. He refuses stating that he is not ready or some other reason.
02- I call DSS and pretend to be the mother of the child and find out that she put another man's name on the b-cert. in the hosiptal. Finally he takes the test. 99.9% not his child!!
Currently we are now married and have a child. I don't want my daughter to have any part of this. The child(12) calls my child sister. I do not want that at all. This situation will never touch my daughter if I have anything to do with it. Her grandma has little to do with my baby and is bitter. feel bad?!
2007-03-28 13:35:33 · 2 answers · asked by sunneybear1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So my daughter's first birthday is this weekend and grandmother wants to bring the child. Noone in my family, all my friends, co-workers, etc. know about this child. She'll be calling him daddy and I'll have to explain 1,000 times.
2007-03-28 14:10:13 · update #1
Your dead right in refusing to have the child there. It is no blood of anyone in your family. I don't see where you have the slightest obligation to this child. Anything you do should be done freely and if you don't like the kid so be it.
If Trisha was right I should start calling Bill Gates DADDY and he would be obliged to take care of me because it is not my fault.
Tell those who have a problem with you selecting who will be invited to your daughter's birthday that they don't have to come either. I get so sick of having to be politically correct for fear of hurting other peoples feelings. WHAT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS??? Are they simply a floor mat to be walked on because you are so much less important than a stranger? Sorry if I sound curt but isn't it about time someone stood up for you???
Good luck, I have a feeling you will need all you can get.
2007-03-28 14:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing I would suggest is getting over your resentment of this other child. It's not the child's fault and your husband is the only father he has ever know, apparently. I understand that the situation is hard, but it's your husband's fault and the child's mother's fault. Don't blame the kid!
You should also talk to your mother-in-law about her treatment of your baby. Explain to her that you are trying to deal with the situation as best you can and tell her that you think she should have more to do with your baby. Ask your husband to intervene if necessary.
But you have got to get over your problem with the other child, or it will ruin your marriage.
2007-03-28 13:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋