People call me names and its really hurting me?

Question

There is a ton of people that make fun of me... They call me gay and all that stuff. How can I get them to stop and stuff...Its really hurting my Ego and I have had thoughts od suiside...HELP!!!

Answer 1

Say this: "Oh YEAH?!....

Gets 'em every time.

Answer 2

Ok I read a little of the first answer on here, definately not the way to go. You can't run away from this problem by switching schools, and getting them back is idiotic. Sorry to the first person but it is.
This is the way it is in highschool, people are cruel. They have their clicks and they get off by hurting people. The best way to handle is to make friends with good people that you relate to, stick together and ignore as best as posible the idiots that are doing this to you.
I went through basically the same thing, fortniately in my senior year I moved somewhere where I felt a little more excepted but for a long time I didn't. Once you get out of highschool trust me, things change. It gets better. You still have occasional idiots you have to deal with, but its much better. Hang in there.

Answer 3

Stop.

First and foremost, have you talked with your parents about this? If you have "absent parents" (parents with issues that won't be of assistance for whatever reason ie, abusive, alcoholic) then you should TOMORROW MORNING go see your school counselor. Suicide is a MAJOR ISSUE and even the thought of it needs to be discussed with an adult.

I had similar problems in Jr. High School. Someone started spreading rumors that my best friend and I were gay. Oddly enough, the chick that started them is now an "outed" lesbian - go figure.

I also had alot of "jocks and soc's" making fun of me because I was different than them....it hurt, but I decided to "show them"....I graduated and joined the USMC. Now, I just laugh at them when I go to the "reunions" and see their pathetic lives.

Nobody can hurt your ego...only if you listen. Walk on. Get a IPOD to walk between classes with. FLAT OUT IGNOR the jackasses. Don't return comments, don't even look at them when they talk to you. If it turns physical, defend yourself only as much as it takes to get away.

You need to talk to someone at the school about these kids, however. If you are suffering, so is someone else...and they may not have the strength that you do to reach out for help.

These kids that strike out at you are troubled and need help. Don't bother with telling them that, they will just lash out at you. Get an adult to intervene, k?

Things will get better...one day at a time, honey.

Good luck and God speed, young one...

Answer 4

Very cruel thing to happen. The best way to deal with this is to act like it doesn't affect you. They keep doing it because they are getting something out of it, they are getting you upset and they can see that. When they stop getting something out of it they will stop and move on to someone else.

Here's a secret. I was in the Army for nine years and I learned a little tip. If someone is edging you on turn around and get face to face with them and hold your stare saying nothing. Don't name call because you would be lowering yourself to their standards. Standing up to them gets in their personal space and surprises them. You will no longer seem the wimp they thought you were.

Answer 5

Darlin...

WHY... IN THE WORLD... WOULD YOU EVER...

(yes I am yelling at you by the way!)

Care about someone else's opinion of you, so much more than you do your own heart... ?

So as to give the motherfu*ckers the ammo they need and a target to aim it at, by not only paying attention to their inane rhetoric... but to also go to the extreme of wanting to hurt yourself because of something some turd jockey had to say about you?

Please don't think like that... I know it hurts. I have been on both ends of it. But you know what? There really is something you can tell yourself that will make you feel better while you hold your head up high and never let them believe or think for one second that they are getting to you...

"There is no sense in being an as*shole, if you can't prove it!"

Some people are here in this world just to trip everyone else up. They believe it makes them somehow better than everyone else... there are groups of them, gangs of them, running around un checked and un questioned or challenged because most people don't understand...

All of your light...
All of your love...
All of your peace...
All of your Joy...

Everything that you are... REALLY are... they can't have!
It exists inside you. Don't give it away to them so easily...

The moment you take out those precious pieces of you...and show them... It is theirs to do with what they please.

I know it hurts hon... Believe me, I know, I still know...

I was made fun of today by a catty bi*tch-wad of grown women! Over something I could neither help or fix... and I am almost 40 years old. It doesn't ever end... Childhood bullies very seldom evolve into the kind of intelligence that understands compassion and love.

People like to find weaknesses and exploit them... All people. Myself included in my moments of weakness. Everyone is guilty of being a total jerk-off at one time or another.

Fortunately... I have learned these lessons... I learned them a long time ago. and I hope that you do too... Before you waste your precious parts on some idiot box that doesn't know when to stop...

Remember that sweetheart... NO ONE can have that part of you unless you give it to them in the form of a reaction, tears, hurt, anger, regret, rage, or saddness...

Do whatever it takes to hold your head up high and walk right past those motherfuc*kers and don't flinch.

I'll be there with you... Kicking their asses in my mind's eye.. just for you!

Answer 6

i know it sounds cliche' but you can't let them get to you. There are always going to be bullies but you have to try your hardest to ignore them. Sooner or later they'll grow up and realize what their doing is stupid and immature... or your realize that their remarks just made you stronger as an individual. People quesiton what they dont understand...if your gay be proud if your straight and there calling you gay, laugh it off, if its guys that are calling you gay dont let it bother you why should they care really. If you really are having suicide thoughts...talking to a counselor or a close friend will really help.

Answer 7

Why do you care what people say to you? You can't commit suicide. That is the most COWARDLY thing you could do. That's much worse than the name calling. Get a grip. Stop saying STUFF. Ignore them and they'll stop bothering you. It does work.

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel. In The 8th grade I've had a lot of bullies calling me names and tried to get me into trouble. One bully tried to punch me. The other bullies would block the door from me trying to escape.

One time when I got a haircut I got called mushroom head from the bullies.

I'd talk to your school counselor or to your parents or a favorite teacher to ask them to help you at school.

Answer 9

sticks and stones can break my bones but names can really cut me up inside........ We all have beauty inside each of us a talent or gift.... start building your self esteem from the inside. start by finding something you like about yourself... be comfortable with yourself.... you say they call you gay... I cant imagine why... if you are gay it's OK so accept it... if you are not gay it's OK so know it.... life and getting self esteem can be that easy... you have to learn to tune out negative people. Just walk away and people who are positive will notice.

Answer 10

If you can't join them beat them. Being gay is no problem. Call them on their homophobia. Let them know what little people they are. You don't need to take their crap. Dish out as much as they are giving you.

Answer 11

ok, usually there just messing with you. just tell them to shut the f*ck up and stand up for yourself. if you tell the pricible, the wont have any respect for you and will keep making fun of you but if you sand up for yourself, theyll respect you and stop it. smae thing happened to me. i lost it and beat the living sh1t out of this kid. i got suspened for 2 days but i felt really good inside and then i got a lot of respect.