On Monday this guy (lets call him Jim) asked, "Wanna go out with me?" I said "sure" but before then I started to like this other guy (lets call him Kyle). And i think what jim ment was just to me bf/gf. Nothing has changed in the last 2 days (yea i know thats a short time) But I don't know if I want to be jim's gf. I want to be his gf but I don't. I like him but i also like Kyle. I feel more comftorable with Kyle and its easier to talk to him. But not with Jim, but I've liked Jim for atleast a year and always wanted him to ask me but know that he did I'm not quite sure. What should I do???
(Just so you know those aren't their real names)
2007-03-28 13:24:46 · 23 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm only in junior high
2007-03-28 13:42:34 · update #1
Go where your heart tells you, and relax...
they arent the only people in your life!!
2007-03-28 13:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Eric D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think my brain just stopped on this one....give me a sec....ok, I'm guessing alot of people are going to give you alot of answers to this question. Alot of them will sound good and may even be good. But, that's them. I think the best thing to do is really honestly ask yourself what you want. The hardest thing for any person to do is be honest with themselves.
Maybe you're choosing one guy cause you think it's the "right" thing. Or because one guy is really attractive [not that's bad if that's what you want]. But the only question I can think of is, By choosing either guy, are you settling for something that doesn't satisfy what you truly want? Are settling for guys with a few great qualities rather than the whole package? If you're settling for less, than I'd say chose neither and find a new guy. I'm guessing you're relatively young because you make things seem so black & white. :) It happens. You see, A or B, when it could really be A or B or C or U or X.
Overall, I'd say make the effort to answer the question yourself. You know yourself and your situation alot more than random people on the internet. Good luck.
With room to live,
Konstantine
2007-03-28 13:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by JoffreM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm dump them both and move to get away from the drama..lol jk ok so at least give this jim a chance cuz u just started going out and try to become closer with him..talk to him more and keep ur mind off of kyle until u know what it is like with jim
Good Luck
2007-03-28 13:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just going on what you've said I'd choose Kyle cause he's easier to talk to. But there's still a few important details you seem to have left out, such as: which guy have you known longer, which one do you have more in common with, which one are you more attracted to? In my opinion all of these things should be considered before you make you're decision.
2007-03-28 13:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea of not using their REAL names!
Well the best thing to do is kind of spy on them see which one is more like you or atleast what you like. The real question to ask yourself is Do I like Jim or Kyle? the decison is up to you. But dont stress it. If you can't pick just don't choose either!
2007-03-28 13:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by lovebug3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel!!! I stuck with Jim for a couple more weeks and then i told him i really like you, you're soo sweet and nice and soo fun to hang out with!! But, i've met this guy and i want to see if he's as nice and sweet as you!!! Jim said " babe, i love you i always will if it doesnt work out with you and the other guy i will be here for you!!!" But it did work out with me and "kyle"
we have been dating for 4 yrs now!!!!
2007-03-28 13:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. I like Kyle hes cooler, easier to talk to and ya. Jim reminds me of Jeff. ;)
2007-03-28 13:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Josh R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you like both but obviously you have to make a choice and like now. make a list of the pros and cons of each guy and see which one has the more pros. i knoe it seems so simple right? but no im sure its not but you should really think about it, i cant tell you who to pick i dont knoe you or these guys but i can tell you that it seems like you like this "Kyle" guy more. but talk to him and see how he feels about you first then if he likes you back then go for it with him. if he doesnt than stick with "Jim" cuz you obviously like him and he likes you. so choose wisely and good luck!
2007-03-28 13:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Manrae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with the one you like most I think you should go out with "kyle" cuz like you said hes easy to talk to. and you feel better off with him just tell "Jim" that your really sorry but you dont like him
2007-03-28 13:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well if you like kyle then ask him out if you like jim go out with if who ever you like more goo with thats i can help you with the rest is up to you
good luck
2007-03-28 13:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by darthkevin27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is right- follow your heart, not your brain. every girl has the "fantasy guy" that she wants to ask her out, but that doesnt necessarily mean you like him- it could just mean you respect him and want his approval. It depends what you want- there's no reason why you shouldn't date a guy just because he has a great body, but if you want a real relationship, If you feel more comfortable with the other guy, maybe you should date him instead, because in the long run, you'll be happier with someone you can connect with than someone who has killer abs.
2007-03-28 13:30:50 · answer #11 · answered by Fiona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋