My Fiance has had his best friend for more than six years. I am not the jelouse type and I am totaly confident with knowing how much he loves me. The problem is that SHE is in love with him. He doesn't feel the same about her but she is starting to do things that are just not apropreate, A few days ago she asked him why he wouldn't sleep with her. She told him that she has been trying to get him into bed for the last two years. When he exsplained to her that he loves me and wouldn't cheat on me number one and number two h doesn't see her that way she burst into tears and made a huge scean saying that he didn't want her because she was ugly. He got tottaly ticked off at her manupulation and wouldn't talk to her for two days. She kept calling and texting and even sent a dozen red roses. I know that she isn't sorry and she is just going to step up her game. Any ideas on what to do about this? Legal ones please!
2007-03-28 13:24:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her to piss off. or you could have your fiance take a domestic restraining order out on her. that way she can't contact him or come within so many feet of him. or you could try talking to her and tell her to back off. other than that you have to get dirty.
2007-03-28 13:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by Gordo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first have to let him know that your uncomfortable with it, so that he has the chance to identify with your feelings. Then allow him to explain to you why it is that their best friends and if they have ever had a sexual or physical connection towards one another. If he can tell you there is absolutely nothing there then you have pre-wedding jitters which can bring about insecurities. Oops..just read the rest of your problem, get a restraining order, its obvious that shes not just there for the friendship.
2007-03-28 13:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to talk to your boyfriend about her.Why does he keep her as his friend?6 years of friendship, fair enough, but she behaves like a kid and if he is smart and mature enough, he will see it.every guy will eventually become fed up by a woman who throws tantrums.if i were him, i would starte questioning my frienship with her, especially after asking about sleeping with him.i truly believe in a friendship between a woman and a man, but when one asks when they are going to sleep together, it is not a frienship anymore and he should cut any contact with her.I`m sorry for your troubles.good luck and don`t give up!if he won`t do anything about it and will only wait and let her doing those things, start thinking about the fact if he is the right man for you...x
2007-03-28 13:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by depechebambina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact of the matter is that you shouldnt deal with this situation at all...it needs to be your man that deals with the situation...but it seems like there is something going on with your man, that he needs to hang out with a girl in such a unbalanced relationship...like maybe he needs that feeling of being desired or something...what you can do is tell him that he needs to have a talk with that girl and tell her, that she either respects the boundaries of their friendship or that she needs to go her seperate way...
2007-03-28 13:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by boosted 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe that dude that took a psychiatric approach. Believe the dude that said to let your future husband take care of it. He needs to let her know who his choice is. She needs to get over it. If it escalates beyond control, take legal mesures; and by "beyond control", I mean crazy-stalker-that-would-kill-for-what-she-wants.
2007-03-28 14:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this one to your fiance. He loves you and she knows it, believe me he is going to get tired of her **** really fast. He is obviously talking to you about it, so you shouldn't worry. It must be frustrating because you just want her to leave you alone, why don't you and your fiance try to find someone for her to date???
2007-03-28 13:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by asking away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds crazy. Does your man have any intention of remaining friends with her?
2007-03-28 13:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋