my little brother is bothering me and....?

Question

he is only 7 years old. I can not say bad words to my brother because it is part of my calture. So i cant say shut up or idiot or stupid. do you have any ideas i can use so my brother can stop bothering me?

Answer 1

I was a little sister, and although I wasn't really much of a tease or "botherer" of my older sister, I do recall that when I did decide to tease her it was because she was doing her own thing, and I wanted her to talk to me or play with me.

I was also the older sister of a little brother, and he teased the heck out of me.

My point is that older kids often don't realize that younger ones like/love their older siblings. They wish the older sibling would talk to them and not want to just brush them off as if they were unimportant. Believe it or not, what is underneath your brother's bothering you is his admiring you and wanting your attention.

You should try pretending you're not really aggravated by him and instead say something very calmly like, "Cut it out, Freddie. If you want to play L'egos at 4:00 for a while quit bothering me now and I'll play with you."

When it comes to calling him names, what anyone will tell you is if you start calling him "idiot" (or whatever) it will make him get worse and worse because he'll think you're not nice to him and he'll really want to irk you. (Its a complicated thing when it comes to both admiring you and wanting to irk you.)

Part of the fun he gets from bothering you is also getting your reaction. Sometimes - especially for little boys - getting someone upset is just kind of fun. No matter how hard it is, don't show any upset.

Finally, besides spending a little "quality time" with him, you may also want to find ways of not being near him as often as you may be now. You need time alone, too. Maybe if you talk to your mother, tell her what's going on, how you'd like to handle it, but that you also want time alone to get a rest from him she'll assist with making sure you get that time.

Answer 2

try spending a little time with him... if you take the time to be with him, understand him, and help him understand you he may back off al little... play action fighurs with him, jump on a trampoline, make guns out of leggos and run around the back yard playing army...you'll both have fun and when you are dun he will back off and ask you to play every now and again without being so annoying.

Answer 3

hun, i think you need to talk to your parents about this and use patience when dealing with him.