Shy guy, or not interested?? Ladies or guys, please answer.?

Question

What are the signs of a shy guy that is interested in a woman?

There is this guy I see on the bus several times a week coming home from work. When he sees me, I am usually in a seat. He'll stand in the corner. We stare at each other for a good portion of the ride. We have never made a move to converse, just stare. I know I'm pretty shy in new situations, and perhaps he is, too.

*disclaimer: I was able to notice that he has no wedding ring.

One time, I stood next to him on the bus, maybe 3 feet from him? I smiled at him a few times, but started chatting with an older lady. He kind of smiled, and put his head down. The next thing I knew, he had retreated to another corner of the bus! Still staring. Both of our stops are at the end of the route (mine is right after his), and when the older lady left, I took her seat. He got a seat further back and every time I looked at him, he was looking at me.

Is he attracted to me? I know I am him. Or do I scare him?

Yes, I am shy, too. I don't know what I'm more worried of, him thinking I'm a psycho (though I swear he stares at me) or him not being interested.

If it were a situation where I'd never see him again, it wouldn't be so bad, but I would have to see him almost daily regardless of how it turns out...

I tried to get up the nerve to talk to him today, but wound up actually looking away and ignoring him on purpose. Which probably was the WORST thing I could have done, I've been kind of mentally beating myself up since.

I don't know why I've decided I like him so much!! I hope I didn't blow my chances today, but I think I'm going to try to just ask him, because I just want to know what he's like and if he likes me, too, or if he thinks I am weird.

Answer 1

He is and you do, yes. But that is part of the excitement of it all. Just strike up a conversation with him and see where it goes. You will feel incredibly empowered afterwards regardless of how it goes and you will have a better idea who he is. Is there a Starbucks near his stop or somewhere on the route? A Coldstone Creamery? Some place the two of you could go on a whim? If so approach him just before that stop and ask him to join you for a coffee or an ice cream or whatever. Don't go to his home and don't invite him to yours until you learn a little more about him. Keep it very public for now. But you must explore this. You must!

Follow up...
No, you didn't ruin your chances today. But you are driving him nuts. Just speak to him. It's not that bad. Keep it first name only for now if you want. Or even exchange email addresses, that might help the two of you break the ice. But stop procrastinating! Just get 'er done. It will make you feel great whichever way it goes.

Answer 2

It could be the bus ride. You seem to have the same route so stop staring and just get to your where you are going. Read a book and see what happens. You are chasing shy guy and that is not easy often approachable. Ignore this you might me assume something that is not on the bus ride home/work.

Answer 3

lol, definatly, at least talk to the poor guy, whenever you smile u make him feel better but when u look away and talk to an old lady, thats like a turn down, try this...

when you get a chance, make sure that all the seats are filled except for the 1 next to you....2 OPTIONS

if he sits next down to you, he doesnt really like you much

if he stays standing and u 2 just keep staring then he does

Answer 4

Well its hard to tell because he might be shy and then never show any large signs that he is attracted to him. He might not have enough confidence to talk to you if he does like you. His behavior does seem sort of strange. One way you could find out would be to flirt with him or at least and see how he responds. If you give him some confidence he might even have the courage to ask you out.

He does seem strange and I dont know if he is someone you would want to date.

Answer 5

I think he's just shy, I had a similar situation. Does he look down when you talk?Blush? Does his pupils dialate? Nostrils flare? Does he mumbles responses? Stare at you often? Watch your smile but when you get close go somewhere else?

If you said yes to these, you've got your self an admireer girlfriend. Hate to say it, but you'll have to make the first move

Answer 6

well it's hard to tell. why don't you just tell him? what's the worst that'll happen, he'll tell you he's not interested? at least then you'll know. or maybe you should try just talking to him first. just because he's cute doesn't mean he's a great guy. i've met a few really hot ladies and once i talked to them i found out they weren't nice at all. but before all that, you should talk to him. chat him up a little bit, just like you would someone you know. good luck, let me know what happens

Answer 7

He does seem to like you, maybe try to spark up a conversation with him. He's nervous because he looks down when you show a friendly signal. Most likely, he won't look you in the eye during a conversation if you ever have one, I hope you do soon.

Answer 8

Write your number (except the last number) on a piece of paper and when you get off the buss drop it in front of him.

If he picks it up and tries to give it back to you tell him to keep it and tell him what the last number is.

You may have to try it a couple times until he notices the dropped paper.

Answer 9

yes he is attracted to you. make a move and see if he loosens up. look at it from a guy perspective. it takes balls to go up to a prtetty girl and try to stay confident. He needs encouragement. On the other hand, he may just be a chicken **** in all situations.

Answer 10

i know that it hard for us woman now a days to put ourselves out there, but I'm going to say he's interested, but be careful the shy one's a hthe most genuine, an then again they can be the most dangerous. but the only way to know for sure is to ask, start a general conversation.