Help me help my sister?

Question

I just dropped my neice and nephew off at home and my sister wouldn't let me in her house but I could smell decaying garbage when she opened the door. There were fly's buzzing around and the smell was a mixture of feces and rotting food. I'm so scared for her and her children. The thought of them growing up that way is horrifying to me. She needs help but when I offer it myself she becomes angry and refuses to talk to me or let me see the children. I've considered calling the department of human services but I couldn't live with myself if I was the reason she lost her children. I don't know what to do to help her. This is not just a family ***** session, this is true fear for her and her children. What can I do to help her?

I talked to my sister tonight on the telephone and she got upset. So upset that her husband called and yelled at me. But I found out that she has been working on the house and that it's just taking her some time to get things together. I would never call protective services on her, I just couldn't do that because I know how much she loves her children. I'm just glad to know that she is doing something about it. This is one of the hardest personal situations I've ever had to deal with. It totally breaks my heart. But I'll just keep trying to be a good sister and love and support her the best way I can.

Answer 1

well you gotta get strong if you are married the next time you take your niece and nephew home have your husband go with you and if she won't let you in then force your way in and if she says that she'll call the police and press charges on you and your husband for trespassing tell her to go right ahead and call the police.

And when the police arrive they'll notice the stench and how filthy her places looks and and they will contact cps (child protection services) to have the children removed. And then you'll have to go to court to get temp. custody of the children.

Because those kids shouldn't have to live that way, but let's just hope that it was a one time thing with the garbage.

But if you ain't married and the place still reeks like i said before force you way in.

Answer 2

There should only be one thing you need y about right now and that is the children, no child should have to live in those kind of conditions especially if there is a family member that is capable of taking care of them.

There are a couple of things that can be going on with your sister and neither one of them are the families willing to discuss.

1. Mental illness could be causing her to not care for herself or her home and if that is the case then the babies are in danger as they are also not being cared for.

2. Drugs. Drugs will definitely cause a person to let everything go just to chase the drug, but the thing is people when they are strung out do not have the ability to care for nothing but themselves, and then that is just because they are wondering where they can score there next hit from, or needle or pipe full. Again get the children out.

Your sister may hate you, but when she gets the help she needs with either one and is more willing and able to participate in the raising of her children, she will thank you for protecting them.