I can't get a date. I've had one boyfriend (but he was more of a girl then I am). I've talked to some of my guyfriends and thewy told me that when they first met me they found me to be really intimidating, but i've had no real concrete answer as to why. Some say its my intelligence, my athletic ability, my smile or just my looks. But once they start talking to me they said I'm really down to earth...but sometimes they're afriad to talk to me in general.
How can I make myself seem less intimidating?
I mean I smile at people, and I'll talk with anyone I don't judge people...so what gives?
2007-03-28 12:59:47 · 8 answers · asked by toronto_leafs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not aggressive at all, i tend to lean towards the shy innocent look more so then often. But I don't wanna change who I am for a guy
2007-03-28 13:10:57 · update #1
It's not that you intimidate them. It's that they do not intimidate you. Some guys will shy away from women who do not go, or appear to go, ga ga over them. They want to impress you with their looks or charm or wit.
Some girls realize this and will "dumb down". Most guys know this but will play along for awhile.
Personally, my tastes run toward women who are confident, intelligent and proud of what they have accomplished. My wife is one of those women.
Give it time. You sound like a winner.
2007-03-29 07:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a very superficial world. What was once valued in society(family, integrity, honesty, community) just does not seem to hold much water anymore.
Can you believe last year during the Olympics, American Idol pulled in more airtime?! The world-stage that comes once every 4-years is superceded by the worlds worst Karioke Show? What's lacking in us as a society(and as people) when we are so obsessed with celebrities? Driving a leased MBZ/Lexus, but don't own a home...
So you see the pool in which you have to select is not quite like what your grandmother/father has to select from.
2007-03-29 05:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an excellent case of "your reputation precedes you."
See, in everyone's perception, you are this woman who has it all - beauty & brains & success (good chance to it) and then some! If you're in your early 20s, most men your age are not quite mature enough to handle your kind (I do mean that in a glowing way) so they stay away from you. Now the more mature guys (late 20's - early 30s) - the ones who could possibly be a good match for you are already taken...sigh. That leaves you dateless, honey.
What can you do? Nothing...you can't help it if you're smart and beautiful....stand proud....the right one would come along shortly! Be cool!
'been there.
2007-03-28 13:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say someones intimidating... in other words.... they show tons and tons of confidence.... they show no fear... they actually make others fearful of the intimidatee... some people just have intimidating personalities.... you might be one of them... if you dont want to seem intimidating.. try making yourself look less threatening (thats a very general answer, i know.. but i dont know you personally.. so i cant pinpoint exactly what you should do)... showing some vulnerability will make you seem less intimidating because of the lack of confidence... im sorry i cant give you a straight up answer.... its complicated because theres many factors going on... and i just think you should be yourself.... you have good guy friends that see you as really down to earth.. maybe they will grow some interest in the future... you will find that guy that will see through your intimidation (and who knows.. may make you intimidated) Good luck!.. hope this helps!
2007-03-28 13:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont change your appearance. Women are like apple trees. The best ones are at the top but men are scared of falling or getting hurt by going after the ones at the top so they take an apple off the bottom of the tree, which are easy. The sad part is the ones at the top are beautiful and great companions but thw world makes them feel as they are ugly and nned to change their attitudes so "men" won't get hurt by picking them. You sound like an apple from the top of tree, please wait until someone who is "man" enough to be your life companion comes by and sweeps you off your feet.
2007-03-28 13:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by nolet93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's probably your looks. Guys don't think they'd have a chance with you. Nothing really you can do about that. You might have more luck, maybe; if you were more aggressive in letting guys know that you like them. Might give them the confidence they need to ask you out. :-) --------------- I definitely don't think you should change - you need to find someone who loves you for who you are, not who you're pretending to be.
2007-03-28 13:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing intimidating about a friendly smile.....just say hello to someone you think is cute and dont go with the mentality that they have to impress you...
2007-03-28 13:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Coonsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look like you could be aggressive or too bold...Try to have some innocence about yourself.
Most guys like the sexy shy wholesome girls...not the bold ones !
( Sorry if I sound offensive )
2007-03-28 13:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shaun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋