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I have a "best friend" who is a guy i dated him for a while. but he and i serperated and have now been dating other people. We are still really close and he is also a friend of my boyfriend. But they arent close enough for him to be in my wedding. Where would you stick him because he still means a lot to me as a friend and i want him in my wedding ( if he were a girl he'd be my maid of honor)

2007-03-28 12:43:39 · 25 answers · asked by Oh Snap! 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

My b/f and he are okay friends they used to be really close but now they are just friends and when i am around my friend i always hang out with him and my bf and his gf and my bf doesnt mind and he. he and his girlfriend are both really close to me but only a little to my bf

2007-03-28 13:09:22 · update #1

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Well, there is nothing wrong with him being the "man of honor" as long as you aren't going for a strict traditional wedding. Also, there is no reason why he couldn't be a groomsmen either. Lots of people have friends or relatives of the opposite sex on the "other side" at the wedding. Like my fiance may not have enough people to even out his side to mine so my best friends husband or nephew may be a groomsmen on his side. He could also be a Usher if you feel okay with him not standing upfront with you guys. He could do a reading or sing a song. There are many different possiblities to include him.

2007-03-28 12:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My brother stood on my side during the ceremony. I've seen mixed-gender attendants on both sides of the wedding party in other weddings I've been to. As long as your fiance is OK with it, have him as a "bride's attendant". If you don't feel like being that modern, just have him usher or participate in another way. We wanted a small wedding party, but we had a lot of talented friends and family members who helped out in other ways and we acknowledged them in the program. We had one good friend be the MC at the reception, another was a photograper (in addition to our professional), three people sang at the reception, one decorated our cake, one played the sax at the reception. You could have your friend read a poem or scripture at the ceremony too if he doesnt sing. It is your wedding, you can include whatever you want.

2007-03-28 19:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0 0

keep in mind this is year 2007 and there really aren't such things as black and white any more. There are many shades of grays now a days...Having said that........he could stand with the bridesmaids. However if you want to keep it 'traditional', or, black and white, so to speak...he can be an usher and escort the mothers and grandmothers and whoever else will play a vital role that won't be standing. My sister in law incorperated her brothers in her weddin this way. Her husband had several brothers that already took all of the groomsman spots, so, her two brothers were her ushers. They were all in the wedding and it was BEAUTIFUL!!!!

2007-03-28 19:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0 0

Since he is such a good friend of yours, and he is a friend of your b/f, is your b/f willing to have him as one of his groomsman? That's what my husband's daughter did, her best friend is a man, and her husband-to-be just had him as one of the groomsman. If he isn't willing to do that because he wants his close friends as groomsman, I agree with another answerer that you could have him as your man of honor. I know it isn't the norm, but you feel close to this guy and you want him in your wedding. Nobody is going to judge you if you have a man as your attendant. He may look a little funny holding your bouquet during the ceremony! lol... By the way, is your b/f OK with this guy being involved in the wedding, since you used to go out?

Another thought... he could be the MC at the reception, or just an usher helping to seat people for the wedding.

Good luck!

2007-03-28 19:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0 0

well, I have two comments for you, first, if he and your fiance are not 'close enough' for him to be in your wedding, and you really feel like you want to include your special friend in your wedding, I just suggest that you find a special job for him during the reception, like ask people to sign your guest book or something like that... and second
Let me ask you something, if your fiance had a 'special' relationship with his ex , would you mind that she was included in a special way at YOUR wedding? I know I would, nothing wrong with inviting the guy, but make him a part of the wedding is -to me- going a bit too far.

2007-03-28 19:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by TANIA M 2 · 1 0

He can still be your "maid of honor." I went to a wedding last year that the bride had her brother as her "man of honor," and the groom had his sister as one of his grooms people. Nowadays, you can do whatever you'd like. It's your special day. If your not comfortable with him being in your wedding party, he can read a Bible verse during the ceremony, or do the guest book.

2007-03-28 20:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn M 2 · 0 0

So make him your "man" of honor!
Unless you had a sexual relationship with him (in which case make him an usher), there is no reason nowadays that he has to be relegated to the "guy's side".
MY best friend is a gay man, whom I knew far longer than my husband--but they fortunately became good friends and my hubby chose him as best man.

If all that is still uncomfy for you, have a frank talk with your fiance...trade a bridesmaid pick for someone HE chooses, in order to have your best bud stand up in your wedding.

2007-03-28 19:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Let him be a man of honor. He can stand with you and the maids. There is no convention on this and you can to anything you want to do. He can also be an usher or flower man maybe ring bearer man. If you want him in the wedding then given him a position you choose.

2007-03-28 19:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

you can still have him in the wedding all you have to do is put him in the wedding party. have him walk down the isle with one of the brides maids. that way he is in your wedding. unless you fiance has a problem with him being in the wedding then you have to basically say he is out because a big part about getting married is respecting your other half.

2007-03-28 20:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by mommysgirl78 2 · 0 0

One of my really good guy friends is going to be an usher at our wedding. He is friends with my fiance but not that close so that's why we asked him to be an usher. He could be the usher that walks your mom down the aisle too if you would want that. But you could also ask him to read too. Good Luck!

2007-03-28 20:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 4 · 0 0

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