I'm so confused!?

Question

I have always been told to be myself and to be my own person. I used to be real nerdy. I used to listen to all of my teachers and do as I was told and did whatever someone told me to do. I wasn't myself then. I was being someone I wasn't. Now that I am being myself, I am getting in trouble for it! I mean, I tell my mom I want my belly button pierced and she flips out, saying how I was always a good kid until know! She says I dress like a ****, too. I used to think I like country, but I figured out that I don't. I'm feel free now, but all of my teachers hate me because I am such a "troublemaker". My math teacher thinks I have "psycological problems"! My parents are trying to figure what is "wrong" with me, but NOTHING is! I always tell them to stay out of my life but they keep digging into it! Today my English teacher gave me an after school detention for reading in class, I had tea spilled on me by another teacher, I literally ran into my history teacher, and I accidentally got my

boyfriend in trouble because I was talking to him during math. I don't know what to do anymore! I just can't take it! What do I do? I don't have anyone to talk to at all except my boyfriend. Please help me!

I'm not trying to be "cool" at all! Not at all! I am just being myself. I have no interest in being "cool" at all! I am just being myself and everybody hates it! My dad just called me stupid for not listening to my English teacher. It seems that everybody calls me dumb and stupid and stuff like that. I just don't know what to do!

I've tried talking to my school counselor, but they don't do anything! They don't do anything at all! I don't have anybody to talk to accept my boyfriend, and both of my best friends.

Answer 1

In going from one extreme to the other, you aren't any more really yourself than you were before.

Being realistic is always better than pretending that things that are true aren't true.

Until you're old enought to have a home of your own, you are under your parent's jurisdiction.

The piercing and other things they forbid of will have to wait. (You won't die if you have to wait a few years.)

At school, you're under the jurisdiction of your teachers.

Being rude to anyone is always wrong, but as a student (which is a reality), you also need to do what they say (within reason).

That doesn't mean you have to think what they tell you to think, or like or dislike what other people tell you to like and dislike, but you do have to DO what people who have authority over you say.

This is a basic fact of everyone's life: There's always someone with authority over you in some matters, but when you're an adult, there are more areas of your life under your control.

If you go to college, you'll need to do your assignments and papers; when you get a job, you'll have to do your job according to the directions your boss gives you.

You'll have to pay taxes, and obey the law.

And, for now, you have to do what your parents tell you to do, and do the schoolwork your teachers give you.

If you don't like detention, don't give teachers a reason to give you detention.

It's a pretty simple concept.

There are a lot of things that are under your control, such as your thoughts and feelings, and what you do with some of your time -- within reason and the rules of authorities.

So, explore those things; just keep your individuality confined to things you have power in.

When you're out of the house, you can get body parts pierced, and whatever else you want to do.

Do you really expect your parents to stop being your parents and your teachers to stop trying to teach you?

That's just silly.

They won't.

If you don't like being in trouble, stop getting into trouble, but you can't make those authority figures go away.

If you were to change your current attitude, and be more mature, your parents might be willing to negotiate some of their rules for you.

But only after you've proved yourself responsible.

BTW, what's wrong with being a nerd? Nerds are smart. Why would anyone wish to be dumb and ignorant?

Answer 2

It's great that you feel like you have found yourself- but as you don't like that others are putting their impressions on you, remember to not put your own new personality impressions on them. Watch what you say and how...your new personality doesn't have to be rude or obnoxious.
We don't get in trouble in school just all of a sudden for being innocent. I was the bad *** as they came and even I knew exactly why I was in trouble all the time and why I was acting the way I was. The trouble comes when your NOT being honest with yourself and with those around you that care. When talking with mom or dad- let down your defenses and really discuss the issuses at hand. Act like an adult in the talk and you'll be treated like one. I know that sounds so "phoney" but honey I learned the hard way- it so true blue.

Answer 3

Wow.... I am so sorry! Yea know good for you that you found your inner personality. I am one of thouse kids in school, and have no friends......but still I have teachers that hate me. I don't think anything is wrong with you. I would just try and tell your mom that you just changed and that your old life just was not panning out. Maybe you should of told them that you were depressed, and that its just better this way and you feel more alive and open.

Answer 4

With this change of you finding yourself, it might be so dramatic that your parents are not yet willing to accept it.

Be who you are, but why are they calling you a troublemaker, are you disrespecting them?

There is a difference between being yourself, and being rebellious, Maybe you should have not been reading in class even though you wanted to.

Answer 5

Now I'm not on anyone's side, so don't get mad at my answer (hehe).

It sounds to me like you were being yourself when you considered being "nerdy"- but then it seemed like you suddenly became a "cooler" person. But the people around you don't really like that, say the older people. Maybe they think you changed on purpose in order to impress people...I dunno, that's just me. Moms normally flip out over their little baby who wants to get something pierced..but belly pierces are a bit scary. My friend got one and she almost got her belly torn off because her shirt was stuck on it :X
Basicly, you sounded like a pretty normal person like me, "nerdy". But now it sounded like you changed to become a different person because you were embarrassed of what you were.

Sorry if I offended you o_o

Answer 6

Go to your head and ask her can you speak to a counsellor ,who would take the time to listen to you,and hopefully you would help yourself out of this stage.

Answer 7

talk to someone