my friend just had a baby and im kinda upset she didnt ask me to me god parent?

Question

we have only know each other two years but i thought she might ask is it ok for me to be up set?

ok yes we have been friends for 2 years and i wont be the distort but i was just wondering why she didnt ask me so stop with the question with im winging cause in not just wanted to know what u think

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with you being upset. I was upset when my little sister didn't choose me to be the guardian of her baby boy if something happened to her and her boyfriend. But you see, she didn't choose me because she thought it would ruin my life (I'm still in college). I definately thought otherwise. My point is that there may be other reasons than you think for why she may have not chosen you. Plus, you've only known her for 2 years. She's had many years before that to develop closer relationships with other people, and you should not take offense to that. She may have even had a hard time deciding between you and another, who knows. And remember it's not all about you and her; it's all about the baby.

Answer 2

Two years is not that long. Furthermore, she has the right to choose whomever she wishes. How would you feel if other people took it upon themselves to dictate what roles they should play in your child's life. It is great that you think so much of her that you would want to be her child's godparent. Try not to let this get in the way of friendship. In addition to that, she could be so preoccupied with the new baby that she has not had the chance to even think about that. Have you broached the subject to her?

Answer 3

Get over it. She might have asked a family member to be a godparent. Or she hasn't given it much thought for god parents as of yet.

Answer 4

After being friends for 2years, she should at least be comfortable to tell you why she did not ask you to be a god parent. God parents are usually chosen as a pair. For example husband and wife, brother and sister in-law, or a boyfriend and girlfriend in a long term relationship.

It may be a good idea to talk to her.

Answer 5

Is it ok for you to change the focus of the happy birth of your friend's child into a whine fest for you?
No.
It's not ok of you to be upset. It's selfish and petty. If you've only known each other for 2 years, I feel certain she asked someone she knows better to be the god parent.
How did this baby's birth get to be about you?

Answer 6

Most people ask relatives to do that. She might have felt that she had to pick a family member regardless of how she felt about you. (I know one woman who had her sister--whom she couldn't stand--be her bridesmaid instead of her best friend because her mother more or less demanded it. People do this a lot so don't say anything until you know the exact reason why she chose someone else.

Answer 7

Well she has alot on her mind at this point in her life, and she might have closer friends that shes known for much longer, theres only one baby and its a very hard decision on her part, giver her time, she might ask you.

Answer 8

It's her baby.....so technically no. Not unless she had mentioned it to you as being a godparent and then backed out anyways. Sorry. Plus, she might have had family members and obligations and what-not.

Answer 9

I wouldn't ask someone I've only known for 2 years to be a god parent either. So, get over it.

Answer 10

Is it possible that she is not selecting a god parent? My husband and I did not designate god parents for our daughter, so I would think there are others out there who don't have godparents for their children.