Is there anything wrong with?

Question

Staying up all night watching someone sleep, because you're afraid they might die,
and even if you want to, you can't get yourself to go to sleep?

No, it's about my grandmother.

I've tried sleep aids, but they I end up waking up in the middle of the night, and staying up watching her breathe.
If I don't see her breathing I wake her up, to make sure she's still alive.

She went to the doctor and they said she was had perfect health.
She's 63

Answer 1

I think that you are letting yourself get overly worried about your grandmother. You obviously love her very much and she must be an important part of your life. If she is ok and there are no health problems then it is time for you my dear to seek some help to find out what is making you so anxious that sleep is not possible

Answer 2

Well it depends. If there are very sick or old and there actually is a chance that they might die..then no, there is legitimate reason to want to stay up and make sure that doesn't happen. Or if you are a mother ( a new mother, especially), and you stay up to watch your baby sleep because you are afraid I can understand that too. That may have something to do with postpardum depression. But anyone else (a healthy person), that is a little obsessive. I think you might need a little help with that because that is over-anxiety about death. If we were always scared about people dying, we would never be able to function, because there is the possibility that any one of us may die at any time. So to worry about it to the extent of watching a healthy person sleep, and not being able to sleep ourselves...is a problem. You didn't explain who it is that you are watching over..whether it is your healthy husband, your child, or you 90 year old grandma..so I can't say anymore. That would make a difference--who you are watching. But if you can't sleep...that in itself is a problem that you should get some help for. Good luck and be blessed.

Answer 3

Are you talking about your baby?
If so, we all do this, new mothers especially. I ended up letting the baby sleep with me the first 6 months. It helped me get sleep.
Or are you talking about a spouce?
If you are worried about an adult, you need help. Either talk to a trusted doctor or a trusted psychic/medium, they can help.
There is some reason you are living in fear of this. A psychic can immediately go to the root of the problem. Make sure you find a good one with many references. I know one if you are interested.

I also have a natural sleep aide that will help you sleep in 5 mins or so. It in not habit forming and sold at Walgreens or Longs Drugs. It is called "Sleep MD" and it is the only thing that worked for me. Try it.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Yes, there is something wrong with it. It sounds like anxiety or separation anxiety to me. But, the one who is getting sick is you and that isn't good for you. I would go to the doctor and tell him/her the entire story. They may give you an anti-anxiety medicine for a while to help you relax and get some rest. If it is an underlying problem, they may refer you to a therapist. I understand your concern, but please realize that you can't control death. And, you are making yourself sick over it. If you don't have insurance or the money to go to a doctor, call the hotline number in your area and they will see that you get the help you need. You will get run down without the proper sleep, and worrying can literaly make you sick. I've been down that road myself, and the reason you probably can't sleep is the worry and anxiety associated with the fear of death. Go get the help you need, and everybody will feel much better. U R N my prayers.

Answer 5

My mother said she did that with me when I was a baby. I had a lot of problems when I was born, and the doctors thought I might not live.

If your grandmother is 63 and her doctor says she's in good health, you probably don't have that much to worry about. Maybe it would help it you slept in another room.

Answer 6

Think of it like this. We all will die. I will die. You will die. Everybody will die. If you beleive in an afterlife, as I do, then find comfort in that. If we don't die, we can't get to that afterlife. By hoping that she does not die peacefully in her sleep, you degrade upon her. Wouldn't you want to go peacefully in your sleep? I know I would. Once she dies, she will be in a far better place then she was here on Earth. If you consider death the release of the immortal soul from torment here on Earth, into everlasting paradise in heaven, you shall not reguard death as such a horrific thing. I hope I have been able to help some.

May God bless you, and your family.

Answer 7

You must be very young, since it appears you think 63 is the end of life. Trust me, the old lady will probably live another 30 years . . . if she could get some uninterrupted sleep once in awhile.

Answer 8

No there is nothing wrong with that. Hey, if I was scared someone might die I would watch them sleep until they wake up the next morning!

Answer 9

it is normal if someone is really sick and you have to wake up to watch him/her that he/she is fine while sleeping.
if your grandmother doesnt have any problem and eventhough u r watching her while she is sleeping because u think that you dont want to let her die.
this is just the excessive worries or fear to loose her.
once u know that she is fine eventhough u r unable to sleep then there is something wrong in yr mind. it might be excessive worries about to whom you dont want to loose. it shows yr affection towards yr grandma.
there is reality of life that those who is born will die someday. yes we try everything to save our dear one who is ill. somethings are not in our hands. if you think that if you wake up whole night watching yr grand ma can prevent her from death then u r wrong.
this is fear to loose someone to whom u love a lot. talk about this thing to your grandma and she will better make u understand. and eventhough this will not work then i suggest that u should consult doctor.

Answer 10

It sounds like you cherish your grandmother and never want her to leave you. You aren't ready to live in this world without her and you fear the worst. Its a normal concern. I've done it with my mom. It was at a time in my life where I felt I wouldn't be able to go on without her guidance, love and support. As time goes on, and you enjoy every waking moment that you can with your grandmother, these sleepless nights will subside as you realize she won't leave you unprepared. She loves you too.