I meet this woman at work. We had some nice chats and whatever. I got her number. We got laid off. Then a couple of months later I called her. We hung out a little bit. Then she took a summer class and we couldn't see each other much. Then hung out a little more. This is where the problem happened. We were walking on this dirt road and she was sharing some bad experiences from her childhood. She mentioned the first thing. Then a second. On the second one I had a similar event happen to myself. Hers was worse. Unfortunately after she had mentioned it I felt the need to lighten the mood and make fun of myself. Because I was having a really fun day with her.Well basically it came out wrong. I insulted her. Which I didn't mean to do. I didn't even realize it until later. I tired to call her but didn't get a reply. About a month or more went by and I saw her at a store. I saw her first and just ignored her. I was checking out a couch and then she saw me. I didn't say anything cause it ...
2007-03-28 12:30:45 · 21 answers · asked by Vin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't feel it was my place to say anything. Especially where she never called me back. I thought she would say something but she never did.
At the end of the date she got mad and said. "Its not like you ever wanted to do anything anyway" Which is totally not true. I really liked her. Even after 6 months I still keep thinking about this woman. I have this need to e-mail her or call her and tell her I'm sorry. Should I just let this go or should I e-mail her or Call her and say I'm sorry?
2007-03-28 12:34:05 · update #1
It never hurts to say sorry.
No matter what.
2007-03-28 12:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just said, that you were just trying to lighten the mood in a sad conversation and you did not ever mean to offend her. That you didn't say anything to her when you saw her because you figured she was still upset and didn't know where you stood with her. And most important tell her how you feel about her, if after all of this she is still upset give her time to figure out if she still wants to pick up where you left off. Honesty is really the best thing I think
2007-03-28 12:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I joke around a bunch also. I have done something very similar and made light of a bad situation in an attempt to lighten the mood. I didn't wait as long as you have but after I told her sorry, it released so much pressure even though the damage was already done. She could not forgive me for my actions but at least I tried to make amends.
2007-04-04 22:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this is so sad to read. I believe that it is definitely, definitely good to apologize. Just pour your heart out to her, tell her exactly how you feel. Let her know that you did not mean to hurt her feelings. I know for myself, it helps A LOT when someone apologizes for doing me wrong. An apology has the ability to heal wounds within two people, and allows them to move on. And if she wasn't insulted, and messages were crossed, then at least you still have done the right thing to do, by acting on your feelings. Good luck with everything!!!
2007-03-28 12:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick up the phone and call her.. if you apologize youll feel a lot better. this has been going on for too long and YOU need to put an end to it (even though you really didnt do anything wrong--but, she doesnt need to know that) it seems like you really like this person. it will be worth it either you just stay friends or you become a couple...GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-28 12:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if she's on your mind you should be honest with her and let her know what happened. if you feel ok about it you could even tell her that you had a similar situation. that will lighten the mood, get you back on track, and show her that you do have something in common.
2007-03-28 12:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive even if you are not the problem. It showed you are a man with a heart if you can say "I am sorry." Leave a message. Move on and forgive yourself. Focus on that next job too. Should go job hunting.
2007-03-28 12:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say sorry if thats the reson why shes ignoring you, tell her it was a mistake if she doesnt believe that then you just have to let her be shes the one being awkard. Say sorry then see how things go Good luck!
2007-03-28 12:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by smiffy boy dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you leave her any kinds of messages? You think she would be somewhat understanding knowing that you were just trying to lighten the mood. This is a tough situation...and its hard that you can't explain any of this to her....good luck with this....
2007-03-28 12:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by Trista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your thing got cut off.
But just call her and apologize. Say you didn't mean it in the way that it sounds and that if she doesn't want to be friends that is okay but you just don't want her to think that you are an ***.
2007-03-28 12:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize. Try to meet with her in person and explain the misunderstanding; she should understand and forgive you. If she won't give you the time to explain what happened, forget about her.
2007-03-28 12:34:28 · answer #11 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋