Need behavior help with my 1yr old?

Question

My daugher is very good usually, my problem is that since she started walking and being more independent when we go places, shes not well behaved anymore. if we are shopping, after five minutes shes crying to get out of the cart. If we are dining out, once shes done eating we have to go or she'll start crying and whinning. i try to bring things to keep her entertained (fav toys) but it doesnt help. any ideas?

Answer 1

We went through the same thing with both of our kids, now 4 & 2. It's just that she's found a new way to be independent and exert control and she's doing it gangbusters. We pretty much gave up on eating out for a while (unless we had a sitter) because it was too much of a trial. You can't stop shopping though--your family has to eat! My advice is to gird your loins and let her cry. She obviously can't get out and run around in the store, and if you start by telling her "no" firmly and sticking to it no matter how miserable she makes you it *will* get better. Eventually. It's great that you bring things to keep her entertained, definitely don't stop that. Heck, I get bored if I'm in the worng store, and I *love* to shop!
Other parents will understand and sympathize because they've been there too. Tell anyone who complains to mind their own business. Once she can handle the supermarket you can venture back out to a restaurant :)

Answer 2

1 year old and she is doing all this and even when dinning out she wanst to leave immediately? I think she is controlling you. You should step up and show her you are the boss,not her. Things are done your way,hot hers.

In some cases, your baby's tantrums may be the result of frustration at not being able to get you to understand something. More likely, though, her tantrums will be triggered by your not letting her have or do something she wanted to have or do. It's slowly dawning on her that she's not in control of as much of the world as she thought, and she's not happy about it. Here are a few ways you can deal with the inevitable: advertisement

If you know what she wants and you don't want to give it to her, try redirecting her or offering an option.

If you don't know what she wants, make a real effort to find out. Asking direct questions may help you straighten things out. Hunger and exhaustion are responsible for a lot of tantrums.

Answer 3

a prime example I have to offer is to be consistant
my example of that would be the very first car ride home from the hospital. baby cried, did not like being in the csr seat.
do we take them out of it?
no. and they cry, and cry, till they realize crying is not going to get them out of that seat while the car is moving
the first 2 months was a nighmare having to be in the car.
but he now knows, once in the car and it's moving that is where he will saty till mommy says were here!!
in other words as said by many others , don't give up, be consistant and one day, any month!! actually, you'll be faced with a new question. Take care and good luck!
mom of 3, 2 teens and a toddler!

Answer 4

I know it sounds like a bribe and is not the healthiest option but if she like suckers. It might do the trick. Gives her something that she likes and keeps her mouth from being used for the whinning. If you have a health store in your area sometimes you can find suckers for children that they make from vitamin suppliments in place of the daily childrens vitamin pill. You might give it a try. She is a little bit to young for stickers to work yet but in a couple of years that will be a good positvie reward. A stick of her favorite whatever if she behaves. Good luck

Answer 5

My son turns 1 tomorrow and has been walking for 2 months now. We choose not to go out for dinner at this stage as all they want to do is get out and explore its a new surrounding and they just want to get out and see. We revert to having dinners at our house takeway or a BBQ works I feel more comfortable as he can play and go to bed on time without disrupting his routine. i find with shopping I have to pick my times for it too work usually I go just after he has had hes nap and bottle as I know hes full and well rested. As for the trolley ride I usually bring some healthy snacks (grapes, teething rusks are good but a bit messy) or I grab a roll from the bakery and break off bits as we are going through the shops this keeps him occupied for a while and then I just give him different things to hold, chew, or shake for the remainder he love oranges and sticks his teeth through the skin. In general just keep them busy and it keeps them happy. Goodluck

Answer 6

I don't have a lot of tips other than what you are already doing, but I can at least assure you its normal. Once they learn that walking skill, its all they want to do. I hate to say it but I stopped bringing my kids shopping for a while, when they went through that stage. But it does get better, as they get older and you can reason with them a little bit. Hang in there!

Answer 7

She's right now in the process of getting spoiled, take charge and nip it in the bud now, she won't break in half. Its difficult to really discipline at age one, but you can look at her firmly with no smile ever-and say no, be firm. It is not cute. If she continous take her to the restroom and smack her on the diaper, for while you'll have to stay there until she realises you mean business. Pratice at home, she's trying to figure out who is the boss her or you. Her stubborn streak will escalate. [mother of 4]

Answer 8

She probably just wants to explore her surrondings, now that she's walking.This is normal behavoir for a 1 yr old, hopefully she will grow out of this stage.But look out cause then comes the terrible two's.