I been dating this guy Josh almost 8 years.He told me on sunday he has nothing to live for and he wants to kill himself.I have not called him since sunday.What do i do to help him to get help?He been saying he wants to die to me for a while now.I don't know what to do or say to make him snap out of this mood he is in.Please help me.I am not sure if I am ready to get married to him.I am not sure if i can be with him if he acts this way now.
2007-03-28 12:25:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a SERIOUS position. CALL THE POLICE!!!!
Tell him how much you love him and that he DOES have something to live for and NOT to throw his life away! He is stubborn not to think that!
2007-03-28 12:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him that you are going to break up with him because then he will really be depressed and make him want to think that he has nothing to live for. What you need to do is sit him down and let him know what you feel about this situation, bc i am preaty sure that you dont want to loose this guy, Let him know that he will get through this and that he has alot to offer to the world and that he has not yet acomplished what he needs to in the world and that you are NOT letting him let go of his life. You are the only one that he will most likely listen to. Tell him that you guys have been through alot and you, yourself are not ready to give up on him and that you will NOT give up on him..seal it with a kiss <3
2007-03-28 19:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by iloveyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw honey i've had this problem with people.
Take him to see a doctor; he needs help real quick.
And call him! what he needs right now is someone who cares.
Call him and tell him how you're worried and you want him to come and talk to someone to try and help him.
Dont leave him hanging, cause he will begin to feel no one cares and that he actually doesnt have anything to live for.
let him stay at yours.
if he's scared of people finding out etc, book it with your doctor and take him. then explain to the doctor what the real problem is.
I know its not nice to see someone like this but you have to stick with him during this time. his friends are what he needs the most.
He cant just snap out of it, he needs to talk to someone.
I hope it all works out for you both, i really do!!
tenji
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2007-03-28 19:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by tablesalt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. You really need to call him and try to talk him out of killing himself because you'll feel guilty if you don't and he does. You need to be a good friend as well as a good girlfriend and talk to him and tell him that you care about him and you don't want him to kill himself I mean if you do care about him but I don't understand why you haven't called him since Sunday especailly because he was talking like this. If I had a boyfreind who talked like this I'd call him and let him know that I cared about him and I won't want him to end his life. Killing youself for any reason isn't a good idea and it won't solve anything. He does have something to live for. Let him know that you don't want him to end his life. I hope and pray that he hasn't done it since you haven't talken to him since Sunday.
2007-03-28 19:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's seems that whole 8 years doesn't worth alot in your relationship with that guy. but i do know that along these eight years there was some happy time and in both you. so it might help if you try to talk to him and tell him not to die for you but live for you. Try to talk about those happy time in the past incase he would like to make that happy time again then he might change his mind.
2007-03-28 19:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by Filizter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely DON'T ignore him.
It'll send him into a deeper downward spiral of self-pity. Have you tried just talking to him? Tell him that he actually does have something to live for, and then telling him about it all?
And if he loves you then make him understand that he has you to live for.
2007-03-28 19:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs WAY more help than you can give him.
Do you know his family? An intervention may be a good start to getting him some help.
2007-03-28 19:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is depressed and needs proffesional help,,i wouldnt consider marrying just yet,,,let him get the help he needs first,,,sounds like its going to be a long road ahead,,you need to ask yourself if your ready to deal with his depression that could last years if he doesnt get help,,im sure medication and therapy can do wonders,,if he is willing to put forth the effort,,,good luck
2007-03-28 19:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by geminis_do_it_twice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I suggest you go see a counselor with him. He possibly needs medication to help him with this. He may be chronicaly depressed. Good luck to you!
2007-03-28 19:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remind him that u love him but ur not ready 4 marriage yet help him realize that u fell in love w/ HIM not this suicidal sad sack
2007-03-28 19:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋